3 years of friendship down the drain

So like the wounds still fresh this JUST happened so i dont wanna go too much in deatial but here's the jist of it;

they have apperntly had issues for a long time over me being agressive and manipultive(they give no examples and have never said anything) and posting tiktoks of them without their consent(a vent post that i think was extremly obiously about someone else) and they say they do want to fix things but feel things canont be fixed. They have apperntly been talking about the "situation" for days, without communictuting to me. They felt a conversation would lead me on and make me think they still want to be friends. Because apperntly telling me about a problem is misleading? theres a lot of mixed signals theyve been giving me too like they said theyve "been distant" recently on purpose, all of them have been talking normal and one of them sent me reels on ig today so... the whole situation seems weird because this isnt even the first time theyve cut someone out of the group for no reason. Also the "incident" that started all this was me and someone had diffrent opions on something, that is literally it. I didnt even think of it as an argument untill the other person told me to fuck off out of the blue, i thought we were allowed to calmly exspress diffrent opions untill they were agressive. 

TLDR;

-there was no communication

-theres inconsinstetincies

-they never exspressed ANY issue with stuff ive done and when i said i wouldve stopped if they told me they said it wouldnt be a healthy friendship if i had to change myself(because apperntly boundries are toxic??)
-they keep saying its *not* about "the incident" (me telling someone they didnt need to end a friendship over someone playing dandys world) but the way they talked, it very obviously was soley about that "argumenet"

I showed other people that dont know the people i am talking about and ive shown them messages and direct screenshots and they all agree with me that it's weird how they are saying that i have done things to make them uncomfortable and because of that this friendship has to end even though they wish they could fix things BUT never once said anything i did was wrong nor did they try to fix anything ever, they randomly decided to say "we dont want to be friends anymore" instead of trying to fix the problem first

do you guys think im in the wrong? i can post screenshots of the entire conversation so you have more context since none of them have spacehey and ive alrd written them off in my head