2 Sides to Every Story~This is My Side Part 1

Age 30, I was single in good shape after finding a good workout program and healthy diet. My 2 youngest were so much fun to raise. I worked. I was generally content despite a lot of past trauma. 

10 years I was a health nut. During this time I met someone who was a friend at first. I was working 2 jobs. At the time I only had my daughter with me. She was in grade 2. My son was with my sister temporarily because I needed to get situated after moving. I had a nice place and good jobs. A couple good friends. 

One of my other sisters moved to the same town. But she was struggling. 3 kids and nowhere to live. She ended up at my door one day. The only reason I let her stay was because of the kids. I was so busy and my sister had a lot of issues. So happens she would take off in the middle of the night and leave me with her kids. So I was taking care of them, making sure they were fed, and going to school plus working a day and night shift job. 

So when this someone I had met at the time came into my life started helping me and just being seemingly genuine, I welcomed it. I never had any intention of dating him at first. I wanted to get to know him better. A couple months in and I decided to give him a chance after I realized he was in fact interested. 

 We became official after a few months. I met his family, they were so nice and welcoming. One day he (Dennis) came up to me and said he was moving far away due to a job opportunity. It kind of blind sided me and took me awhile to decide if moving would be an option for me. I really wasn’t sure if Dennis had including me in mind so I asked him. This is where 15 years later, I still wish I could teleport back in time and not have made that decision. 

But I did and he helped me with all my belongings being stored. It was so tough quitting my jobs and I should of listened to my gut. I remember walking around my house before leaving and saying to myself, don’t forget who you are. I missed so many red flags. And was too quick to throw my life away.

My sister was fine with keeping my son a little longer. My other sister had found a place by the time I left. 

We landed many hours away at my moms. This is where Dennis had a good job lined up. I had found a job within the first week and we had a place secured within a few weeks. 

About a month later Dennis started acting off. I felt on edge around him. I didn’t like the negativity he was putting out. One day he actually yelled in my ear very aggressive towards me for nothing and shortly after that I found out he was messaging other girls. After confronting him, he cried and apologized, he also spoke with his dad for long time on the phone saying he doesn’t want to hurt me and confessing what he was doing. 

Despite this, his attitude continued to be horrible and I decided I needed to leave. So I packed up my car and left while he was at work. I needed to leave the toxicity, not only him but my mom as well. I had a third sister that lived close by but we never hung out. She would drop her baby off to me a lot though. I felt like this was all I was good for in her eyes. I was also working full time. Yah so I felt good leaving. 

I drove many hours to my nieces and stayed with her. My daughter went to her dads and I only had my son at the time. He was back with me and I was so happy. I had missed him so much. It was nice at my nieces. She had a baby and a nice place. She was such a good mom. 

I wasn’t there long. I landed a good job within a week and a place shortly after. I was making really good money and making friends. My hrs were 3 to 11pm everyday. Sundays were time and a half and I loved those days lol! I worked with a lady that lived upstairs and would give her a ride back n forth. Her husband would babysit my son, which was nice coming home so late so it wouldn’t disturb my son's sleep too much. 

Making good money with bills so cheap, I loved spoiling my kids. Dennis did end up sweet talking his way back into my life. This ultimately ended up with me leaving again and quitting my job. Another decision I wish I could go back and change. I should have stayed and told him to take a hike.

I had a new car I was financing. Dennis needed the car for his grandmas funeral and he was helping pay monthly for it. So once I landed at my sisters back where I started (the one with a lot of issues) Dennis came and picked the car up. I was without wheels for a short time. Which was frustrating because I wanted to look for work. I was home bound and my sister would stay glued to her computer 24-7 while her house was in shambles, no food in the fridge and her kids weren’t being taken care of properly. So I oc picked up the slack because I loved my nephews and niece.

Dennis brought back the car and I landed a job shortly after but, believe it or not I ended up back with Dennis. When do I learn? We left town and went and stayed at my brothers. I was excited because I missed him and I was back in my hometown. My sister ended up losing her kids to child protection afterwards because her neighbour came over one day and seeing the mess and witnessing her kids not making the school bus often. 

One thing at this point that weighed heavy on me was I needed to get settled soon so my son could start school. A week later after arriving at my brothers we had found a good paying job and found a place again shortly after. I ended up switching jobs to my dream job which was working in a upbeat popular health food store. I had the best bosses and was promoted 2 weeks after being hired with a raise. I loved that job! 

To be continued..