First time EVER blogging. I'd like to read other people's opinion about this situation I lived this summer. Maybe I overreacted(?
I used to be part of a group of four (2 girls, 2 boys; girl A and boy A are dating). Like, we used to play online together, we saw movies, did everything as bffs. We are were from the same high school, but girl A and me knew each other in elementary.
Boy B studies arts at the same college as me and for last semester he and hsi classmates were going to perform some scenes from Macbeth and he invited us over to the play.
This happened on June 20.
I live close to our faculties (30 minutes by foot), so I walked over and were there on time but I saw a long line for the attendants to the event (I'll clear this out for once: boy B had asked for our names like a few weeks before cuz according to what happened that day there were the line for the student's guests which were noted on a list like VIP and another line for the faculty) and I lined up in the general one.
At first I didn't noticed until boy A waved his hand at me so I'd go over with them. I went and there were three more people: Boy B's Mom, Girl C and Girl B (boy B's bff).
Only Girl B greeted me, not girl A, not boy B's mom and either girl C. They three were speaking with each other and barely side-eyed me.
For a little extra context: Girl A and C used to HATE each other in high school because of some gossip but suddenly (idk when) they became friends again. Like, they used to talk shit about each other with us. I used to be good friends with girl C for a season, but I lost communication with many people once I finished high school.
Also, girl A and boy B's mom were like super close somehow? Like, whenever he'd speak about his mom she'd go like: "oh yeah, but she also told me XXXX about her job and WWWW about your house".
Anyways, I tried to not mind that, and spoke a little with boy A and girl B before focusing on my phone.
Before entering the little auditorium there was a check list (and we were delayed some minutes because of the two lines, and we began to move towards the entrance. When one of the organizers asked HOW MANY WERE IN OUR PARTY/GROUP (bad eng sorry) boy B's mom grabbed boy A by the shoulder and girl B who were right in front of me and said "Five, we're only five".
We were six, ma'am. And nobody said a thing about it.
For a moment I felt like saying something, but I simply couldn't and just remained quiet until I walked into the auditorium. ME, for the first time in like 20 years of being in awkward situations, felt something inside me that made me sit in the back rows, considering that it'd be the best for me to maybe think clear. But then again, boy A called me over to sit with them in the same row and boy B's mom said loudly "Oh, just five seats. It's fine for us." So I had to sit on the back row without them saying anything else.
The first act of the play went alright, boy B didn't act as much and then the public got a 15 minute break. In spanish there's this word called "engentarse" which roughly translated to English would mean like getting anxious or simply annoyed around big groups of people after a certain time.
I suffer from that so I left the auditorium first since I saw how people were not sure who's rows should be leaving first, so I waited outside as I sent a message to my bestie telling her the early situation (ilysm CYG). She told me that if I felt uncomfortable I should just leave already, but I didn't feel like it, I was there for boy B, I had that commitment. Once I finished texting, the group came out and instead of approaching me as it would be usual, but instead walked to be separated from me like about... Five meters? And they'd only side-eye me, not even calling me out.
I really didn't feel comfortable there anymore, but I was waiting to see my friend, I kept repeating that to myself so I just wouldn't leave out of a sudden and have to give any explanation to them.
Second act went way faster than the first. Boy B ATE. And now the only thing left was me leaving.
Again, we were out waiting for the actors to come out, they were apart from me and the second I saw boy B I rushed to congrat him. Of course, he asked me "where are the others?" I barely pointed at them and when he asked why I wasn't with them I told him that things were weird.
I only said goodbye to him and rushed to the nearest bus stop to get home.
The moment I finally was with my parents and I was telling them what happened, I simply broke, I was calmed and all of a sudden I was crying like if I had seen someone die.
Nobody texted me after that besides boy B. And I decided to give myself some space from them, simply detoxing from social media and trying to enjoy what was left of my vacations.
Girl A only sent me 2 messages during that whole time on insta. I was watching some reels but I NEVER opened the messages (to this day, they're still unopened), and maybe she was worried about why I hadn't said something in two weeks? No, she just wanted to know if I was going to go to her birthday party, and since I was online and didn't answer she just said "oh ok, I get it". Girl, if you'd got it, you would've acted like the adult you're supposed to be and said something like "hey, do you need to talk?" and not just act like if you hadn't ignored me for a day.
She ended up "soft blocking" me everywhere and blocking my phone number too on July 16.
Boy B ended up only knowing my side of the story and apologized saying that he wasn't aware of what happened that day, and for what I've seen in his social media (specially on his birthday) it seems like he got some distance from them too.
Again, probably I overreacted and were dramatic, but I'm not sure and that's why I wanted to share this here, I've been carrying this for a while until now.
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Hucko el Pipila Ponx
No le des menos importacia a lo que sientes, despues de leer todo es lo correcto admitir que ellos no actuaron del todo cool, no te conozco pero uno puede ver la verdad en las cosas que se escriben. si la gente no le da la importancia a tu amistad de la misma manera que tu lo heces no creo que sea sano seguir con esas amistades, agradece a la gente que se queda contigo y tambien a la que se va pues de ambas puedes aprender. Yo tuve problemas similares y tambien lo escribi aca lol, al principio pense que era exageracion mia pero cuando lo lei de vuelta hace un tiempo me di cuenta de que hice lo correcto, no digo que sea lo mismo pero no le des menos merito a tus emociones por querer saber si haces las cosas bien o mal la vida solo es tomar decisiones y no mirar atras, tu puedes lograr tener mas amigos en el futuro si estas chill de cojones. ANIMO !!!
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