Questioning if I'm actually aroace.

So I know I'm grey asexual, I've known that for ages. But in terms of romance, I'm not too sure. 
See, right now I don't have much interest in romance, so because of that, I think it's possible that I may have subconsciously assumed that my romantic attraction works the same way as my sexual attraction does. 
Basically for sexual attraction: If we're not close and I don't feel attached to you in a platonic sense, I cannot develop attraction towards you. 
I'm aware that's pretty much demisexual, but I don't use that term because I don't really feel that it completely fits. So I just say I'm grey asexual. 

However, I'm not sure if how I would want a romantic relationship to be would place me on the aromantic spectrum. I know that I prefer platonic love to romantic love, but I don't think that's related. 
Basically: I would want to be friends with someone before I would consider them as a romantic option. I'd be willing to go on dates, but I'd want them to be platonic, until I feel close enough to them that I'm able to evaluate if I want to actually date date them or not. Idk. 
See thing is, I don't really understand how alloromantic attraction works, or just romantic attraction in general. I don't know at what point things would change from platonic to romantic, I just know that's a thing that'd happen. 
Maybe I'm too stupid and inexperienced to judge if I'm aromantic or not. But I have no options to experiment rn, since I don't get out much, and don't wanna use a dating app because that's not friendship. Plus I mean, I don't want to date anyone rn anyways. But. Idk. 

This is honestly just a rant, give advice if you want, but I'm not gonna ask for it. I've already said most of this elsewhere, but yeah, just kinda wanted to talk about it a little more.