🦇 Perseverance among it all, November 12th, 2024 🦇

Today was a very stressful day. Yesterday my hopes were high of taking control of my bodily autonomy. Today, they were crushed, by yet again… a fucking man. I called a clinic to get a tubal consult as i mentioned in my last blog, and this morning I was given the most devastating news. I woke up to a MyChart message from the clinic stating that the doctor is refusing to see me due to the fact of my age. Just a little reminder, when I called yesterday they scheduled me knowing I am 29 years old and that I turn 30 next month, the month of December, and that it shouldn’t be a problem. So, they went ahead and scheduled me for November 19th for the consult, and then turned around and denied me today due to my age. When I asked if there was a way to bypass the age restrictions the receptionist stated “well, no because its the doctor’s preference not to perform the procedure on woman under the age of 30”. 

I lost it. 

I went off stating “I have a twin sister who was able to get her tubes tied after X amount of kids, I’m married, WITH kids. And its all coming down to a males preference. So this is about HIM prioritizing his preference over what a woman wants done to her own body!?” 

I hung up the phone. I wasn’t going to feed into that shit any longer than I already fucking did. So, I went back on the hunt for a new clinic. I probably called over 10 more clinics after that and finally found a clinic that would take me. The receptionist was. Great, nice, we even laughed and talked about how dark the world is right now, and how its very valid that I’m doing what I’m doing to protect myself. She even told me about how HER wife even got her tubes tied at the clinic she works at. Talked me through about how long it could take between the consult and when I’d expect to get the procedure done as well. You also want to know the best part about this clinic?- NO FUCKING RESTRICTIONS. The only downside is that their schedule is booked up the rest of November, and their December schedule isn’t out yet until this Friday or Monday. So I’ll have to call back then to try and get the earliest appointment for December as soon as that schedule comes out. 

On top of that chaos, I lost my secondary insurance today which was the state insurance. All because my husband got a raise at work. So, now, the only insurance I have is through my husbands work. I was completely distraught because I thought I wouldn’t get the coverage now to get the tubal litigation after putting in all that work to find the right clinic. I thought we’d have to pay out-of-pocket for this procedure because with my husbands insurance we do have to pay out-of-pocket for some things. So, I called his work insurance to find out how much they would cover and how much we would have to pay outright. To my total surprise- IT IS 100% COVERED IN NETWORK AND OUTSIDE OF NETWORK. 

This burden of sadness and despair that I had just lifted from me and I couldn’t have been more happier. Fuck, man, today was a rollercoaster of emotions. But, at the end of it all- I was able to find a clinic AND find out that I’m still covered 100% for this procedure. Blessed be!

That’s what I love to call preseverance…. Among it all!!