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So how'd you get here? Maybe you clicked the link in my profile. Maybe you were told to visit this link instead. Either way, you're here now, so listen up.
This is a blog to tell you that I don't have time to tell you things. I don't have time for pleasantries often times. I don't have time to respond to every single user that private messages me, or friend adds me, or @'s me on Discord, because a lot of times that user just won't get to the point. Oh, my favorite, "Lingie I need to talk to you in private." (First off, no the fuck you don't.)
I don't have time to give you, even if you want it from me.
No, I'm not terminally ill. I'm not on my deathbed. I'm not going away for a long time.
I just don't have time.
Between juggling my life as a content creator, and my desire to continue pushing the envelope on my creation(s) in the future, along with trying to form and formulate a community, and a staff team to take good care of that, all while holding onto daily life tasks, I'm a busy person.
Every. Single. Day. Of. The. Week.
Sunset and Duskview City Nights has become a seven-day job for me every week of my life. It's been this way well back in January, I just didn't realize the gravity of it then. I'm still learning new things these days too.
So why are you here? Let me break it down.
If you ask me to do something for you, then I spend time doing that thing. I also spend time listening to your inquiry. I might spend some time thinking about it. I'm probably also already doing something when you ask me, so you end up having to ask a second, or even a third time.
That interaction doesn't sound bad right? Kind of normal for someone trying to relax in VRChat right?
This is why I had to stop showing up on Blue status. Because if I go ANYWHERE, I'm going to find at least one person who needed to ask me something, and the cycle continues.
Now I'm trying to not be jaded. I don't want to become someone who doesn't want to talk to people.
The problem here is, is that most people wanting to "be my friend" are simply using that status to ask things, or request things, or even beg for things. Things that I've answered five or ten other different people about already. Things that I may have posted in the Discord before getting onto VRChat that day. Things that might be spoken about daily on the Discord server.
All of this leads to one thing; EVERYONE DOES THIS. While you may think your inquiry is simple, or short, or not much to ask for, when every single person is asking for things, I find myself more reluctant to want to show my face. This isn't a friend, this is a beggar!
When I can't go into a single lobby in VRChat without having to go business mode, or customer service mode, or help desk mode, or something similar, then I really don't feel like getting onto VRChat anymore. It's a chore, and a hassle. I just want to be able to enjoy myself sometimes!
So, if what you're asking can be answered by submitting a ticket on the Discord, THEN SUBMIT THAT TICKET. Someone with time and energy will get back to you when they can! Can it be answered by talking in General Chat on the Discord? You know what to do!
I have to point out as well, that there's a lot of times that I get a dry message, or a random call, or a "hey help" kind of message. You can tell me EVERYTHING in that message that you need to confer. If I have the energy, I can answer you then!
I feel like what I'm having to put into the relationships that I'm making with people, are not met in kind. I don't want to waste your time. I don't. I want you to enjoy yourself, and that's that. I don't tell people no, almost ever. If you read my body language, you should realize I'm not comfortable with a lot of things asked of me, but yet a lot of people still continue anyway.
So, please let me enjoy my time. I don't get very much of it these days. If you're here, please make sure that you're respecting my boundaries. If you made it this far, thanks for reading this. It means a good deal to me if you understand where I'm coming from.
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