6 october 2024 - annoying people (rant)

[SORRY ITS RLLY LONG :C]

i'm tired of people who complain endlessly about something but, when given the opportunity, never take the chance to escape what they're complaining about.

idk if that makes sense lol, but it irritates me to no end. i have a couple of friends who complain about situations they're in, but when they have the chance to change it (multiple chances at that), they don't take it. even if i tell them the chance is right there ??

maybe it's just me being weird and i'm not understanding social stuff but if you complain about something it means you hate it right? so why not try and change the thing happening???

like i have an irl friend who kept complaining to me about their situationship with some horrible guy. the solution was to BLOCK THE GUY and that was pretty much all they had to do. but instead, they decided to not block him but keep complaining about all the horrible stuff that he was saying.

idrc if you complain to someone else about all this, but if you're coming to me then i'm gonna give a solution to fix it? bc you're a friend, i want to see you happy so i want to help solve your problems.

but then when i try to help people tell me that's not what they're looking for.

WHAT ELSE IS THERE THEN ???

literally why complain at all if you choose to stay in the same position.

i would get it if it's a more complicated situation and there's no easy way out, but seriously alot of the things people complain to me about have pretty simple solutions.

i have another friend who, unfortunately, does not have many other friends. this person vents to me, almost daily, about being lonely and upset that things are the way they are.

i've tried, almost every day, giving them advice on how to meet new people or how to get into a space where friends can be made but every. single. time. they give me some excuse reason as to why they can't.

i really wouldn't mind, if the complained a few times, even rejected my advice about it, whatever.

but to complain all the time about something i've given solutions for..... what am i supposed to do in that situation? i feel like my time is being wasted. i'm trying to be supportive and help people get out of tough situations, but every time no one takes my advice?

should i just stop trying to help?

and in that case, what do i do if they keep complaining?

this is all making my head hurt.....