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I turned 18 a few months ago. A'lot has happened this year.
I'm driving, have a job, in college and have reconnected with old friends. It's a bitter sweet feeling turning 18. I have more freedom now and can drink, woo! But I'm also a little worried. I don't know how to be an adult?! I feel like i still haven't found out who I want to be or what I want to do yet. I thought things would have clicked by now and I would have at least a slight idea of who I wanna be in the future. I still feel the same as I did last year except with a few more responsibilities. Will everything just fall into place? I hope so
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If you don't mind some encouragement and anecdotal advice from a 26 yo - This is completely normal, especially at your age ^^ Practically no one has their life plan sorted or sense of self clear at 18 - even if they think they do, it will likely change at some point. The whole notion of "growing up" and reaching some final stage of selfhood is mostly a myth - you're always growing mentally, and changing as you experience new things and meet new people. No matter how old you get, asking for help and admitting you're unsure of something and need guidance is always an option. Usually from people who have more experience with whatever you're dealing with/learning, or people specifically trained to advise on certain things ie medical matters, financial matters ect, but also from your peers who have grown and learnt alongside you. Just make an effort to put time into what you enjoy, try new things when you can, and see what sticks.
In terms of more practical "typically adult" stuff - I would look into the financial literacy and budgeting courses on khan academy- its completely free and helps a lot. Finances are the main thing to wrangle as an adult and a lot of people leave learning the lingo until something goes wrong - its much easier to get a handle on things when you learn about it before a crisis.
And #1 advice I myself struggled to internalise for a long time - its never "too late/too old" to start a new career/hobby. People change careers in their 30s, 40s, 50s and onwards, people take up art and writing in their 60s ect, if you want to do something, do it! Your main point of comparison should always be yourself as that is your only true progress bar!
Best of luck to you!
Oh my god thank you so much for taking the time to write this advice for me. Honestly this was just was I needed to hear <:-)
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