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i love my mom so much, but i admit she's very difficult to deal with. She have a lot of traumas, and i understand that. But, she didn't need to be so rude. If i could, i would save her from all of her pain and cure her from all of you problems. This is all so sad! :(
Children love their parents just the way they are, but parents want you to be a mini version of them.
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Parents in general can be very complicated, I'm someone who has issues with both of my parents. For the sake of this post, I'm not going into details about my dad.
My mom is very hard to comprehend at times, primarily because she has a bipolar disorder. However, despite her diagnosis, she also completely refuses to believe this is the case and wants to pin the blame on everyone else. She wants to be controlling, she thinks since she has children that she has the audacity to control anyone around her. Much like me, she's always been shunned by her peers and family, so finally getting that power where people listen to her just feels nice. Now she's stuck like that.
Not all moms are like that, but a surprising amount of mom's are... Which is scary to say the least.
As to why people want kids? Well. Keep in mind that all reasons for wanting a kid are selfish, it's as selfish as not wanting a kid, but selfishness isn't inherently bad...
Some parents literally want a mini version of themselves, they want to try and raise something better than how they were raised (although this usually becomes an invalid reason due to the parent treating their child exactly as they've gone through, or arguing that "my parents did [...] to me" to manipulate their child into thinking they're not abused.)
Some parents just want a child since it's a life experience.
Some parents just want kids because they believe it makes them happier (recent studies actually proved women are happier unmarried and childless, though.)
Most parents are kinda stuck in the mindset of when they grew up, you'll rarely meet a 30-40 year old who tries to stay "hip with the kids" and uses gen alpha terms. In fact, some literally go into online wars with the generation they produced; millennials vs gen z is a thing, which is insane but it exists.
I got a little off the topic but my general point is, your mom grew up in a different world than you, thus, believes different things and sticks to that. Most moms grew up in a world where beating and verbal abuse was practically normalized, only to become upset when the law declared those AS abusive. Your mom also might have a personality disorder from her past traumas. There's a lot of things that can cause complexity in how mom's behave.
thank you for the words. My mom have bipolar disorder too, but she prefers blame me and my older brother, and this is so much tiring. It's so irritant to have fights all the time over futile things. But really, everyone just wants to have kids to take out their frustations on them.
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