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Disclaimer: Hey there, I don't mean to single anyone out or stir up anything, but I came across something on Tumblr that made me do a bit of a double take. It's just something that brought up a lot of thoughts about how I approach people interacting with my content and what kinds of people take interest.
This blog comes from someone who went by the nickname "Dyke freak" in middle school, so I've got my fair share of experience in the scene. I've been immersed in the community for quite a while now, and you can bet I sported kiss makeup in 6th grade and rocked those chunky boots everywhere I went. My old school emo roots and obvious clique obviously made me a target by everywhere wherever I went, especially in the Bible Belt.
I used to relate to that whole 'Preps DNI' mindset as a teenager, like, 'if you're a conformist normie, don't bother talking to me.' But now, as an adult, I'm actually on the hunt for prep friends, go figure. Maybe that old adage about opposites attracting has some truth to it, right?
Having preppie friends as an adult can be a riot!
They're downright unhinged and not afraid to dish out some juicy shade. In some ways, it's just like us alts and emo folks— we talk crap for different reasons, but the spirit is the same. If we're being totally honest, most of our bullies growing up were definitely the popular, 'prep' types. But you know what, these days, the meaning of 'popular' has changed a lot.
Honestly, I'm not entirely sure what the purpose of this blog is, other than to spark a conversation! Personally, I really enjoy having friends from a variety of different scenes. It's like you're breaking away from the norm and experiencing something truly unique. Life is like that, right? You don't choose your friends; they choose you, or vice versa. It adds a sense of diversity and authenticity to your circle.
I mean hell one of my best friends is a really big Boy Band and 1D fan, and Id never listen to the music unironically, but if she puts on the Jonas Brothers you bet imma get into it with her and be like hell yeah lets party.
Dunno, Guess tell me your thoughts? Do you dislike preps interacting with your content or trying to befriend you? Or do you like to break the mold a bit and get to know someone regardless?
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⛈️Stormfree⛈️
Hm. Personally I was never into any scene/emo/goth scenes as a kid, but I was always the "weird kid" in middle/high school and had somewhat of a high horse about being "different" or whatnot but I think that was mainly because I was lonely and didn't fit in anywhere.
I personally like having friends from different backgrounds as well in adulthood, and the fact that my interests (anime, video games, just generally being neurodivergent, etc.) that I would have gotten made fun of for in middle/high school are more mainstream means I'm not *that* weird anymore though I wouldn't say I really "fit in" with the majority culture, whatever that is, I still certainly *feel* very out of place and am more deeper into some online fan/subcultures. (There are upsides and downside to subcultures becoming more popular but that's a different discussion but that's a different discussion)
So, maybe the "Preps DNI" is a reaction to the people who make fun of them? That was my initial thought, but tbh I didn't even realize people use "preps" in a more literal, unironic sense? From what I understand alternative people get a lot of crap, I'm sorta friends-ish with a goth IRL and she puts up with a lot of BS, so maybe it's just in retaliation to that. I mostly was too socially inept to even realize people might have thought I was a weird kid LMAO, and always hung out with other social outcasts so most of us were kinda just being ignored instead of outright bullied or smth. And I always kept my queerness to myself (still do) so it's not like I had much experience in that either.
To be honest, I'm fine with "preps" or whatever people refer to the majority is; don't most people who are in subcultures or alternative lifestyles have at least some sort of "prep" persona anyways? Like I don't always go out dressed up in full cosplay or anime merch or my other "not normal" derivative clothes lmao; for the most part I just kinda go about my day like everyone else and really only invest in my public appearance/persona if I'm going out once in a blue moon. That's one consistent I noticed across most subcultures; a lot of the people in them for the most part really only invest in their subculture when they have the time and energy and the people who are invested 24/7 are more rare. Most folks just don't have the time, ya know?
I mean, how do you REALLY know if someone is "prep" (however we are defining that term). For all you know, they could have an EGL cord sitting in their closet and we'd be non the wiser. I think it's silly to put people into boxes, but I understand why people who might have been bullied or consistently face harassment in adulthood would be frustrated with "preps". I've just personally kept my "weird" interests to myself and small circle and call it a day, but that's just me. My personal experience is that I was/am mostly ignored and honestly that works out for me.
Sorry this was long LOL.
You’re good! I really liked this comment, insightful and made me see my initial opinion a bit differently !
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i believe it's mainly bc most 'preps' i've seen or have heard usually made fun of the so-called weird kids (emos included) in highschool and then tried to dress 'alt' into adulthood. now for me, i don't immediately assume someone is a 'poser' just bc they don't watch anime or listen to mcr, i usually pay attention to their attitude and how they perceive it, then i start judging. i just wish that some alt people would understand the difference.
tldr; just bc someone is wearing abercrombie doesn't make them less 'emo'/alt, it's their attitude about the subculture and alts shouldn't immediately assume that preps are evil bc it's a bit prejudiced.
I get this totally!! I made this blog at a weird turning point in a friendship, ive never seen the alternative scene as an excuse to exclude others and as an adult that makes more sense to me now than it did when I was a teen.
To be honest I understand the appeal of cliques having this whole aversion to each other in school I just find the behavior pretty unbecoming in adults because it makes more sense to be more mature in how you view the world and make friendships.
Its also bec i follow this totally cute couple on Instagram thats kinda fitting the vibe of prep and emo or at least like cyber skater core and i was like aw thats so cute.
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