I/Me/Myself -- labeling and the queer identity

Will Wood is one of my own personal favorite artists so I wanted to touch on something that hits close to home with the most popular song in his discography. Everyone has their own meanings and that's okay!! ^0^ This is just my own personal take on it. As well, this is not an attempt to attack anyone, these are just my lived experiences

I/Me/Myself specifically has the meaning of identity and how other people view your own identity. I am a born male, but I have a hormone deficiency that makes me a lot more feminine compared to my male counterparts. I was raised gender neutral to female leaning. I'm also queer. Despite falling under the intersex/transgender umbrella, I prefer not to go by that because of the way people have treated me when they view me as a "male sorta male"

Despite this, the labeling among the queer community tries to force me in a box of microlabeling. I have no issue with microlabels!!! Do whatever you want!!! Xenopronouns, microlabels, strange and unique flags galore!! But it's not for me

"I wish I could be a girl, and that way I could be your girlfriend boyfriend," is the lyrics in the main chorus.

"Say my name like a slur, but I've been called worse, I've heard it all before no this isn't a first" is another lyric I relate to.

"Every identity is equally invalid, don't you think that there's a chance that you could live without it?"

The queer identity itself is fluid and undefinable. It is yours to make. If you like labels, go right on ahead and label yourself!! Yet I've found the forcing of labels among the queer community to be rampant. It goes hand in hand with the "inclusivity" that sometimes presents itself as exclusive

Will Wood himself, in writing the song, has described dealing with fans who would often try to force labels on him. For some time he even went by they/them! And that's okay, because I did the same thing!! In an effort to fit in to a community that I belonged to, I just tried to become something I wasn't

Some people to this day use they/them with me, but I think people don't realize that this is still misgendering even if it's technically a more woke and acceptable option. Of course if someone met me for the first time and used they/them. I wouldn't be mad! I know it can be confusing. But if you've been my teacher for three years and still call me they/them, it hits a point

Will Wood describes his want to appeal to the larger community, with his own fluidity and identity of how he changes as a person. How people see him as a pretty and small in this big world. This is something I can relate to in my own identity

"No I know that I'm wrong, but I love how you're on my side when I cross that line. It's been a point of contention between myself and this body that they stuck me in. The privilege of being born to be a man!" 

Privilege is a huge connection point in the community as well, finding oppression Olympics to be a starting point in the younger sphere of the community but it has overlaps in the adult community as well. Between lesbian transmascs, aroaces, intersex people, GNC people, bisexuals, and others.

In a space that is supposed to be judgement free, it's difficult to be yourself when you don't align with other queer people's views of what being queer means. In a world of so many different identities, the lack of acceptance even among queer people is difficult to find 

"I wish I could be a girl, and really I would prefer it if you use i/me/myself!"

The preference of you seeing me as a person aside from the identity that you perceive me as. But who are we without identity? If we strip ourselves of our identities would we find our true selves or would there be nothing left?

I'm not sure. But I wish people would see me as me instead of an identity they pushed on me

Okay yap sesh over!!!!!!!!