Teen girls and Obsessive/stalker men

I don't understand why a lot on teenage girls have obsessions with being obsessed over. An I'm not talking like man in IN LOVE with you (that's amazinggg 😍🌹). I'm taking Joe Goldberg, "if I can't have you nobody can" type guy. Like...being stalked is NOT fun it should not be normalized like that shi is scaryyyy. And you know damn well if it was an ugly man they would not be saying this. What has booktok done to the teen girls 😭. Being stalked should not be wanted guysss get a GRIP!!! 😥😥😥