Toxic friendship

I just fell like sharing what happened to me with this one girl, everything is fine now, I have a better group of friends who really likes me so no need to worry. Just sharing in case someone is going through something like this and need to know that things get better.

So I will call this girl L.

She started studying in my class two years ago, I just fell something off about her, but I just have meet her so I just ignored it.

She quickly became my friend new bff, who also isn’t the easiest person to deal with, and I will be calling my friend M. So they had A LOT of fights, and were always mad with each other. L always didn’t have a reason to be mad at my friend, its not up to me to decide other people feelings, but in this case she use get mad (for example) when M didn’t know that L have fight with het parents and didn’t wanted to talk about family that day (she didn’t tell anyone about her family issues, yes she wanted M to read her mind …). 

It didn’t take long to L start making (really bad) comments about me, my body and the way I did things (like the way I bite food ??? Who gets mad with someone about this?) and this really made me upset, so I decided to talk alone with her (BIG MISTAKE) even thought she said all this stuff in front of my ’’friends’’ (who said NOTHING). I said that I didn’t like the way she treated me and she said that I should stop being dramatic cause it want a big deal …. I just ignored (BIG MISTAKE 2)

Other thing that happened is that M got diagnosed with autism (by a really bad doctor, M decided to sue her because she made a lot of mistakes in her diagnoses) earlier, when she didn’t realized that the diagnoses was completely wrong, she told L her diagnoses, and L went talk to M parents that if it was her parents they would be very sad for having an autistic child ????? I was the only person who heard this talk and told M and asked her to go talk with her parents to confirm my story and not tell L (BIG MISTAKE 3) She told L and she went talk to me about how mad she was for me ’’trying to ruin their friendship with lies’’ 

And there was one time that L hit me .-. She said it was a joke …. (This doesn’t make it better)

Anyways, for who needs to hear this: what I just described is not friendship, so if you’re going trough something like this don’t wait like me, leave the group/place and find new people. M and my others friends who did nothing this whole time notice just now how bad L is, even so they didn’t  care when she did all this stuff so they are also not my real friends. Changes are hard, but I wouldn’t be alive if I haven’t tried to find new people. Now I am really happy and loved. 

Just one more thing that happened last week: L just show up and started talking with my new friends, they were so confused with this that they barely answered. I think she noticed she can no longer trick my old friends into her lies, so she decided to try to ruin my life again by becoming my friends friend. I fell bad for her, but I tried helping her for a long time, sometimes people just can’t be helped by non-doctors … So if you tried and didn’t  work because the other person wont change, leave her. I know is hard, but sometimes is the only answer. 

Good luck guys, and don’t be tricked into thinking that people who mistreat you are your friends.