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I am in love, properly...i love him and he loves me. The only problem? He's 15 years older. I'm having a crisis, I know its wrong but, I love him...what do i do?
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I am in love, properly...i love him and he loves me. The only problem? He's 15 years older. I'm having a crisis, I know its wrong but, I love him...what do i do?
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xxRebellious_Emmaxx
At the very least, wait until you turn 18 to pursue the relationship. You're only 16, which means that you're still a minor and you should understand that such a relationship at your age can be very dangerous and that it's illegal for a very good reason.
Yeah that's what I'm planning on doing, plus we're long distance so it's not like we can do anything if we wanted lol.
by G0ld_Fishcr4ckers; ; Report
furbyz0ntheRADi0_
please do not continue a relationship with this guy... i know it feels like it's a real actual relationship and you probably feel like you're mature enough to have it, but for your own safety, you shouldn't be in that relationship. 18 is only 2 years away, I would wait the two years and then reconsider. A 30 year old guy in a relationship with a 16 year old is a Massively Illegal Thing and he's probably not being fully genuine with you, at the very least. please please for your own safety, do Not date him.
Yeah I understand, we're not dating rn it's just mutual feelings. I'm trying not to make it into a huge thing and I want to wait until I'm ready before I do anything and that's what he wants for me too. I just don't understand why I have these kinds of feelings for him even though it's pretty wrong.
by G0ld_Fishcr4ckers; ; Report
that's good! as for why you might have the feelings to begin with, it's actually pretty common for teens to have crushes on adults, ex. celebrity crushes. It only gets weird and icky when adults reciprocate those feelings.
by furbyz0ntheRADi0_; ; Report
Yeah I understand, thank you : )
by G0ld_Fishcr4ckers; ; Report
Venus โ
I wouldn't suggest you try going into that relationship. Why would someone his age want someone your age? I know you could be thinking he's different and wouldn't do anything bad to you. But you're in love you don't want to believe something like that. I know boys around your age can be immature and you might want someone more mature. But this relationship is going to cause more harm than good.
Yeah I know I think about that a lot, why someone his age would want someone my age, it's definitely weird and it bothers me a lot. I wasn't interested in dating in general before I met him, I wasn't looking for anything and neither was he when we started talking I guess it just happened. But it's not natural I know something must be wrong I'll be careful with him. Thank you
by G0ld_Fishcr4ckers; ; Report
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sweetheart,,, u are 16. u arent even of legal age. i can't drink, u can't vote, u cant get an apartment, u cant even get a tattoo without consent from ur parents. wat business does a 30+ y/o have with a fucking child. yes, u are a child. im 18 and i still consider myself a kid in a way. u may love him but he does not have ur best interest at heart i can PROMISE u that. the only thing someone of his age would want of someone of ur age would be to take advantage. i don't mean to be harsh but please dont be stupid. over a man?? absolutely not. u have the rest of ur life to commit to someone who loves u not to take advantage but to actually LOVE u. u may disagree but that's a fucking demon of a person. no one of that age would ever date someone of ur age if they're in their right mind cuz they know its immoral and harmful. the mental and emotional difference between a 13 y/o and a 16 y/o is insane, much less someone who's had 15 more years of life experience. dont be no fool sweetheart
He's not a bad person and he's so sincere I have had experiences with people around age but I don't know why I like him more. It's not an excuse and I know me wanting it doesn't make it any more illegal but if he is just talking advantage of me which I don't think he is I might just have to find that out for myself. He choose not to do anything until I was at least 18, I wanted to do more but I won't, it's not right i know we just talk and stuff and have been for almost 10 months nothing crazy. Thank you for your response it really makes me think about it differently. I'll take it to heart.
by G0ld_Fishcr4ckers; ; Report
i just dont want u getting manipulated (which is wat im sure is going on here) since, like i said, normal, healthy 30 y/o's don't want to date children. even if u were 18 u should still be a child in his eyes because of ur inexperience. it's ultimately ur choice wat u do, im just telling u its not a good idea to let urself be groomed. its rlly rlly not
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by โพ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐๐ซ๐ฆ๐ฑ๐ฑ๐งโพ; ; Report
Yeah I understand, I want to talk to him about that more.
by G0ld_Fishcr4ckers; ; Report
kromantiya
this man it's disgusting call the fking police
It doesn't have to be a bad thing...
by G0ld_Fishcr4ckers; ; Report
but it IS a bad thing
a horrible one actually
by kromantiya; ; Report
I know but I really do love him
by G0ld_Fishcr4ckers; ; Report
Chaos Conspiracies
Does he feel the same way about you? Have you talked about what it will be like on 10 years. If you want a family does he? I think you should sit down and find out what each other wants. Where you want to be in 5 or 10 years. Do you care what people will think will say. Friends family what do they think? There are rules for everything. Including how old a person you should be with. But it all comes down to you and him. Do you make each other happy? Do you fulfill each others life? Of you both feel the same about each other. Then who cares about what people think or rules on how old someone should be. There is one thing and one thing only that matters. Your happiness. You live your life and live it with someone that makes you happy. Not what people say will make your happy. Go for it. Age is just numbers. It is what's in your heart that counts. I wish you then best of luck.
Thank you : ) and yes we both want to have a family together, we both know that we are completely for each other and I know that I want to be with him. I don't care what my friends think but I know they would be confused. I just don't want it to seem as if he's grooming me, I know what I'm doing, I could've had anyone..but I chose him.
by G0ld_Fishcr4ckers; ; Report
alot of ppl do go for older guys but honestly u can be judged for anything
by Chaos Conspiracies; ; Report
True
by G0ld_Fishcr4ckers; ; Report
If the person who posted this blog were a legal adult (18+ years of age), then I'd agree with you here.
But this person is still a minor and is risking opening herself up to things like being groomed and being raped by the guy here. There's also a very noticeable gap in maturity between a 16 year old vs an 18 year old, where the 18 year old is usually going to be better capable of handling serious relationship issues and spotting red flags than the 16 year old. I can say this as an 18 year old college student myself.
by xxRebellious_Emmaxx; ; Report
many parts of the world 16 is age of consent sumtimes even 15 meaning 18 is legal 2 date i had a friend who was 16 & dated a 30 yr old n the police didnt care long as its age of consent it is allowed by law
by Chaos Conspiracies; ; Report