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I (Teenage female) love my dad. But as all parents he can get on my nerves. But him and my mom have been doing something that I noticed. They always favored my younger sister but they never say it. For example she gets more stuff than I do. When we had our screen limits on our electronics she always got more time.
So all of them have two rooms or more. My mom has her bedroom and her office, my dad has his bedroom and his office, and my younger sister has her bedroom and a whole playroom to herself. I tried telling my dad how this frustrated me but then he started saying that I was being ungrateful and stuff. I had enough so I blew up. I started yelling about how unfair he was but he stayed silent. I stormed off into my room anyways and I heard him and my mom talking about how selfish I was. Now I'm starting to feel guilty but I just wanna know, am I the a-hole?
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Chaos Conspiracies
i wudnt say ur 1 i get the frustration but sadly dats how it usualy is the youngest always end up being spoiled / i think they r the ones being a bit hard on u tbh Different parenting styles and expectations for siblings are a common challenge many people face. There are a few constructive ways you could approach this:
First, try having an open and honest conversation with your parents. Explain how you feel the discrepancy in rules and expectations is unfair, and ask them if there's a rationale for the different treatment. They may have reasons you're not aware of, or this may open up a dialogue where you can better understand their perspective.
Second, consider that as the older sibling, your parents may have different concerns or goals for you versus your younger sibling at this stage of life. The expectations they had for you at a certain age may not align perfectly with how they're approaching your sibling now. While it may not feel fair, try to avoid framing it as a competition and instead focus on your own growth and goals.
Finally, you could suggest ways your parents could give you. Proposing compromises or alternative approaches may be more productive than simply demanding equal treatment.
The key is to have an open, solutions-oriented discussion with your parents. With patience and maturity, you may be able to reach an understanding, if not perfect parity, in how they parent you both.