pain and "identity"

why do people with less baggage always say their life is boring when you share things with them? i would kill to be boring. i would genuinely kill to be the one who says "man, i've never done anything!" you've got childhood friends, a history you can talk about, intact memories, a solid sense of what's real and what isn't real, the worst thing you've ever had to deal with is your parents' divorce or your dog dying when you were 12, i want to zip you open and wear your life like a jumpsuit dude. that's not boring that's incredible

(not coming at pet death or children of divorce. that sucks. but you know what i mean dude be real like i am talking about the untouchable trauma that ends conversations and makes people see you different.)

it's like they want some kind of story, they meet someone with certain experiences and can only relate it back to movies and tv and books and only see that facet of it, you become a character because certain experiences are exotic and interesting to people who haven't gone through them or known someone well who has gone through them.

i don't like being a character to people. it feels cheap and alienating.

it doesn't make a person more experienced, self assured, "cool", or any of that.