Be alternative... but not too much!

Hellowowoowow, how are u? Hope u all doing well! Here things are just fine :)

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I was wondering those days and asking myself: "why do i feel so ashamed of being myself sometimes?" Reflecting a little bit, i got into a conclusion: even being alternative, i am or too alternative, or not alternative enough.

Sometimes i think people got to their minds that being alternative is something about clothes, and not about minds. Of course you can see if someone is alternative by how they dress, but usually that comes because we have a way of thinking that leads us to wearing those things. 

And as an individual, i feel like i'm alternative in all kinds of ways: sexuality, gender, clothes, religion, opinions, music, movies & books taste. And all of that makes me who i am, but people seem to have a little problem with it.

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How so?

I've seen some people that thinks that even being alternative i'm going to be a closed-mind person, that i'll have the same ideal of family, religion or whatever as someone that are not alternative. You got my point? And i think that comes with the mainstream around alternative world in general.

Somehow, people have questions like "can i be blond and be goth?" as it was a real question. For real, when we let it go to this point? The hole point of alternative society was to make people that doesn't live the same as the other people, or even a safe place for people to understand that they DON'T NEED to desire the same life as the others. 

Also, people sometimes think i'll be pretty chill and that i don't talk that much, which is something they shouldn't assume anyhow from me. I'm an extorvert from heart, and you can tell what i'm thinking or feeling at that moment. 

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I think the mainstream put out the idea that alternative people are or agressive or super super super shy and non-speaking at all. And that is a pure mistake. Obviously, at some point, the hole "man can do, but woman can't" comes around. Let me give you some examples:

- When a woman get excited about something, she is childish, when a man gets excited about something, he's interesting.

- When a woman laughs loud, she wants attention, when a man does it, something just made him laugh.

- When a woman express her feelings in a pure way, she is dramatic, but when a man does it, he's opening his heart and being vunerable.

So when we talk about it, i think we should keep it in mind.

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In any way, i think this is something we should talk about. There is a bunch of people out there, seeing the alt community from the mainstream view and getting the idea that, if there were too loud, too smily, too expansive, they can't find their way into being alternative. Please let me know 'bout your thoughts about this topic! :)