calling all alternative folks to ask for help

its still the same issue, i live where hxc isnt known (im emo in general but anything local would be nice) ,its simply not integrated into everyday life. what should i do to build community and help to grow a local alternative space?

i also wanna make music but its so hard to find peeps with the same music taste as me. should i just start by myself?

i get so envious of kids who go to shows tbh

should i just build community online and then start something irl? 

please please plese if you interact with alternative spaces online and irl tell me how to build community and grow scenes !!!