What is the psychology of abandonment issues?

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Content warning: Mentions of death and abuse.

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Abandonment issues are an informal term of a specific branch of anxiety some experience.

There can also be disorders link to peoples abandonment issues such as PTSD, BPD, DPD, APD, RPD, ROCD, and possibly other disorders.

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Signs

Trouble communicating

Needing constant reassurance

Always trying to please others

Jealousy being a common feeling

Seeking signs that someone does not like you

Engaging in abusive, coercive or manipulative acts

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Unable to fully trust your partner

Constantly seeking attention from partner

Wanting to control or be controlled by your partner

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Quickly get into new relationships

Feeling insecure about your relationship

Intentionally sabotaging your relationships

Forcing yourself to stay in unhealthy relationships

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Of course these signs do not have to be aligned with just romantic things.
They can also apply for other types of connections, friendships and other people close to you.

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Causes

Death

Losing a loved one, especially a parent, is a heavily traumatizing experience.
Grief can develop depression and anxiety, leading one to experience other losses and grief more severely.

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Abuse or neglect

This could be from a caregiver or an authority figure, making one have difficulty having healthy attachments.
Emotional abuse and neglect have the same effect as physical in this situation.

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Unstable life

People raised in poverty or having family instability can develop anxious attachment styles, including abandonment issues.

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Types of attachment styles

Disorganized

People who have been abused, neglected or have other trauma may develop attachment issues.

People with this attachment style feel anxious about relationships or want to avoid them all together because of the difficulty of remaining close or inconsistent.

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Avoidant

People who have had emotionally distant caregivers may develop attachment issues.

People with this attachment style rarely allow anyone to get close to them.
You may feel you cannot trust other or open up, leading you to appear distant.

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Anxious

People who have not felt secure or had their needs met may develop attachment issues.

People with this attachment style usually cope by heavily depending on their partner or having dependent relationships.
You may feel anxious over any kind of separation from your partner and react emotionally from the possibility of your partner leaving you, leading you to act out from fear.

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