Family drama over my emo hair cut but not in the way your thinking

This is going to be a long story. maybe im actually not sure

ANYWAY... so this weekend im going to the race track with my dad and two step siblings. like usual right? well i have a hair cut this saturday in the middle of track time but its with my mom so she wanted to pick me up on friday (despite me having my N and being able to do it myself 100%) i had NO IDEA why she wanted to pick me up on friday but apparently its cause my great grandmais having another birthday LETS GOOO and she really wants to see everyone. SO my dad wants to just take me to my grandmas birthday after all its his grandma anyway, so why my mom thinks she has any say in this is beyond me. so now my dad is going to this birthday party with the aunt that doesnt like him and my mom that doesnt like him. then like an hours after all this drops my sister calls me and says no one is going to this birthday party anymore. you know what really irks me? when fucking grown adults wont put that aside to see their fucking grandma fresh from the hospital on her 89th birthday?? wowww why is my family fucking retarded