Why am I pretty enough to be sexualized but not enough to be someone’s girlfriend?

I’ve been wondering this for a long time, but I just don’t understand. I wouldn’t call myself pretty but other people do (I can’t really trust other people tho). It just seems like every guy I like or talk to ends up just wanting my body. For example I was “dating” this guy this year. I say “dating” because we never hung out, out of therapy (YES I MET HIM IN THERAPY IM STUPID) and he was just love bombing me to get me to send ykw. Long story short he had a girlfriend the WHOLE time and he was cheating on her with me. And another situation happened after that with another guy. I always feel like the other woman. I just want a chance at a relationship, just one. But how can I be someone’s first choice?

Ty for reading my rant! Please give advice 😭

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xxRebellious_Emmaxx	1725681467 I feel your pain, although I do currently have some optimism in terms of finding someone to be with now that I'm an adult (let's just say that the dating pool really opens up to you once you turn 18). Report Comment You are totally right. I should be waiting to date. Thank you sm! :) by 𝓑𝓪𝓫𝔂𝓭𝓸𝓵𝓵; 1726105475; Report
SENTIENT.B	1725547453 Being desirable doesn't require social skills. I never understood why it was easier to find people who wanted to do things to me than people that wanted to be my friend. But I was so lonely and naive I got taken advantage of my need for attention lots of times. I wish my younger self had more friends to keep them safe. Report Comment Im sorry you went through that, I totally understand. by 𝓑𝓪𝓫𝔂𝓭𝓸𝓵𝓵; 1726105540; Report
Fag4shadow01	1725201470 Real it sucks. I get cat called sometimes so i guess im "pretty" enough for that but its so bad cuz its always by people way older than me Report Comment I really relate to that. I personally feel like our generation is doomed bc of the boys in this generation. But it's hard to date older men without being judged and its unrealistic. by 𝓑𝓪𝓫𝔂𝓭𝓸𝓵𝓵; 1725212437; Report
eviexx	1724090827 girl same idk and because of this im actually like taking a break from rls in general like i dont wanna be with anyoneee unless its maybe someone ive been friends with or ive known for a long time and that i know for a fact i love and trust and i knowww they love and trust me yk Report Comment Real, it’s just hard to find that in this generation by 𝓑𝓪𝓫𝔂𝓭𝓸𝓵𝓵; 1724090917; Report
flecktard	1724090794 ROFLMAO BUMP Report Comment