Antisocial behaviour- narcissists

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I am certain that people are born with the inclination to survive/live, we as human children are born with the need to survive making us selfish, we give priority to ourselves before we begin to share with other people. It is not until we are toddlers that we begin to acknowledge other people and their needs- the development of sharing doesn’t stop there. It continues till adolescence and adulthood and the last stage being: understanding and sharing social norms, culture, personality and emotion as well as gaining a sense of fairness and justice . 

 Brief Origin Of Narcissist  

The term "narcissist" originates from the Greek myth of Narcissus, a beautiful young man who was the son of the river god Cephissus and the nymph Liriope. Narcissus was so entranced by his own reflection in a pool of water that he fell in love with it, unable to tear himself away. Consumed by his self-obsession, he eventually withered away and died, turning into the flower that bears his name, the narcissus. This myth highlights the dangers of excessive self-love and vanity, which is the basis for the modern psychological term "narcissist."

What is a narcissist?

The definition for narcissist is, a person who has an excessive interest or admiration in themselves- but it does not mean that they love themselves. It's when someone has a high self importance for themselves and wants people around them to acknowledge and praise them. From some sources, they claim that behind their facade, narcissists are unsure of their self worth and causing them to lash out at any possible negative feedback or criticism.  

The nature of someone with narcissistic tendencies

The nature of people with narcissistic personality is a pattern of arrogant-thinking lack of empathy and consideration for other people and the need for excessive admiration of others. The sources that I have read all say that narcissists might become manipulative, selfish, patronising, and demanding. Those with the disorder are extremely stubborn and resistant to changing their behaviour even when it's causing problems. I think narcissists are fragile like a bomb, so much so they become self destructive, and explode on other people as well. 

How does a narcissist come to be?

Narcissistic behaviours often begin during childhood. These traits don't suddenly appear in adulthood but can be seen in the teenage years or early twenties when the brain is still developing. Knowing that these narcissistic tendencies are brought on through childhood, what is the most common type of upbringing a child has to have to become a narcissist or have narcissistic traits? How one becomes a narcissist is unclear but there are some patterns. Those who have narcissistic  traits are typically cultivated through lack of parental warmth. The child begins to take the inflated views of their parents and start believing in their parents inflated view that their, “above everyone else” and “entitled to privileges”.  Narcissistic traits can also develop if you were subjected to excessive praise and adulation. For Narcissistic personality disorder, some traits can be genetic. 

Types of narcissists 

Narcissists generally fall into two categories: grandiose and vulnerable. 

Grandiose narcissists are characterised by their overt self-importance, assertiveness, and a strong sense of entitlement. They often seek admiration, dominate social interactions, and have little empathy for others. They tend to be confident and exhibit extroverted behaviour. 

In contrast, vulnerable narcissists are more sensitive, introverted, and defensive. They may still have a deep need for validation and admiration, but they experience insecurity and anxiety, often feeling inadequate or overlooked. Despite their differences, both types share a common underlying trait: an inflated sense of self and difficulty in forming genuine, empathetic relationships.

While narcissism can stem from upbringing, it's also important to consider how these traits manifest in relationships, both romantic and familial.

Narcissists in relationships 

In partners 

Narcissism in partners can be challenging to deal with and spot, a narcissistic partner can manipulate and use you for their own personal gain and when they don’t get what they want they end up lashing out at their partner and throwing the blame on them without taking responsibility.   When you first meet a narcissist they might seem charming and charismatic, in an effort to conceal their true self and get close to you or other people, but what might they actually look like under closed doors? Some of the manipulation tactics that they might use is, silent treatment, constantly criticising you, cheating and the breaking of promises. A partner might also neglect your needs and gaslight you, making you feel like you are the problem slowly being unable to talk to them about certain topics that would be necessary for the relationship to move on. 

In family 

Narcissists in a direct family can be challenging to deal with, especially when you are young and vulnerable. A narcissist parent can do the same as a partner but as a child you could have a greater impact on your mental health especially when you are young and new to the world. Manipulation that a person with narcissistic traits might use could be: focusing all the attention to them; lack of love or concern for there children or family members; not taking accountability when things go wrong; being controlling- ruling through domination, fear or manipulation-; they might tease, mock or bully in an attempt to make themselves feel bigger. 

Help

Having a narcissist in your relationship can take a big toll on your mental health. It's best to distance yourself from them and focus on building other relationships, I would say to cut off ties with them. It's best to distance yourself from them and focus on building other relationships. While it may be difficult to cut ties, especially if their grasp on you is strong, seeking help is important.

In conclusion, understanding the origins and manifestations of narcissism can help us navigate relationships more effectively. Whether dealing with a narcissistic partner, family member, or acquaintance, recognizing these traits is the first step towards protecting one's mental health.

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