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so i was with my friend in my house and i felt really bad cuz she kept using her, i mean, my headphones and didn't really talk to me. she kept playing on my pc. i guess she doesn't like watching movies either cuz whenever i tell her she is always like ''hmmmhmhm.... idk......'' like just say no gurl. its soooo boring hanging out with her, if you can even call it hanging out. now, i wanted to draw so the moment i plugged my headphones in to listen to some music she decides to leave and don't even tell me or say bye? i'm not saying i'm the victim here and she isn't either, just like, oh did i make u feel bad? then fucking tell me. i've been trying to be a better person and keep my friendships with people well. i understand sometimes i might be rude, but many times i don't even know it. if ppl don't tell me what i'm doing wrong then how the fuck am i supposed to become a better person. now i feel bad. wtf.
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Zoseph
I mean, I think I'd see that as, "Of they are tired of me and want me to go away" because headphones is the universal "Don't talk to me sign". Like if you'd like to strike out asking someone out who May have said yes in any other circumstance, try asking when their headphones are in, headphones in means "Go Away" unless you let the other person know first, because they don't know why you did that, and to ask you they have to interrupt your headphone time so it seems like a bad idea. I'd leave too lol!
heyy so i see what u mean and i understand it but she did it to me first so i thought: well if she uses my headphones them i'm gonna use them too y not? (i have a lot of headphones in my house) like i felt that they didn't want to talk to me first and the fact that she keeps playing on my pc ALL DAY, like fr i'm not exaggerating, from 6 am that she wakes up in the morning to 12 pm when she finally goes to sleep. i mean i understand that she could've felt the same way too when i did it but if she doesn't like being treated like this, because of course i didn't mean it in a bad way, then at least try to talk to me more or smth idk
by kxro; ; Report
Well, that does change things - Are you sister's or cousins? maybe you guys both just need space, maybe your interests don't have much overlap (I once dated a gil for 2 weeks and over that time we realized that while we were like, okay to be together we actually did not have any common interests at all aside from the initial one that had caused us to met each other)
Or maybe she is going thru something internally and so even if she feels its okay to headphone in company because she is in a bad place mentally she may still perceive rejection, even after having just done it.
I hope ya'll either find some common ground, a new freind to bring into the dynamic, or some space! I get why you're mcpuzzled now
by Zoseph; ; Report
we're just friends, we met in 7th grade, and i think we need some space too. as you said, i don't think our interest don't overlap that much.
i don't think she's really having a bad time, i mean obviously she could be but i always ask her if she's okay. i tell her that i'm here for her and most of the time she tells me, but maybe she didn't tell me this time. we have confidence between each other, but i always felt like we didn't fit much toghether. i don't wanna just break her heart and tell her to leave, but it's just hard for me too.
i don't want to act as a victim, there is no excuse if i made her feel bad, but i do have problems with friendships and just relationships in general. there's just a point where its hard for me to continue and idk why. i want to get better with that so i don't hurt or lose any friends.
anyways ty 4 understanding too, you seem really nice!!
by kxro; ; Report