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how to move on from an ex friend?

idk what to do.

theres this girl. we used to be veryvery close during high school. our friendship grew very quickly and we even planned of living together etc. i really liked her and she seemed to care for my friendship as well. but then, pandemic. we couldnt see each other everyday but we kept in touch.

we started college and we were in the same class and we were in kind of different friend groups but we were still friends. when the pandemic got better, our in person classes started and we'd meet everyday. our lives were different but i was SO happy to be with her again and i was hoping we'd get as close as we were before but weeks passed and i started to feel even more distant from her. she was going through a LOT at that time so i thought she needed some time alone. so i stopped bothering her with a lot of texts. i only texted her when i really needed to or to send her something funny occasionally. i realized, then, that she wasnt distant from other people from college so i was like ? wjats happening but i STILL thought it was just her way of coping with all those things. i spent the whole YEAR trying to give her time and space until i realized that she just didnt really wanted me around.... even if she told that she loved me, she didnt show it. so i stopped trying to reach out for her.

i wanted to talk to her but it was already holidays and when classes started again, i changed my college shift and we didnt meet anymore. she didnt seem to mind it. i was sad for losing her and sad cause we didnt get to talk about it but ok.

last semester tho we were having a subject together and we just greeted each other like we were strangers. it still makes me so sad. i dont wanna have her in my life again cause shes different now but i dont think i'll ever move on and i dont know what to do anymore


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✧・Vivi cosplay✧・

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Hi I'm very sorry you went through this, sometimes people change out of nowhere perhaps your friend was uncomfortable or didn't like something you did but decided not to express it for some reason idk. Besides feeling sadness you might be feeling like no sense of closure, speaking of experience, you can maybe try having a private conversation with that ex friend to just clear that up or just simply ask hey what happened to our friendship. Sometimes we think as adults that we are suppose to be or act a certain way but at the end of the day we are just human beings with feelings.


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yea, another friend told me we should talk but idk i kinda feel like itd be weird to come back like ..hey girl so what happened 2 years ago? lol but thankss xx

by nighttmarish; ; Report

Yeah I totally get it the same thing happened to me except it was for one year I had no contact with a friend. Like yeah it was hella weird we started talking again, but we talked with the truth on how we felt and got questions answered, especially from my part getting that closure. Let’s say if you tried to talj to your ex friend and she didn’t want to I can say atleast you tried, but you never know until you try.

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well that makes sense....thank u a lot s2

by nighttmarish; ; Report

Np<3

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i sorta believe this eventually happens in our lives once in a while, and honestly, it hurts so much. did you try reaching out to her and talking about it?
but if you really see like theres no way to get that friendship back, than its okay. slowly but surely, you will move to get new friends and meet new cool people. as a personal advice, just cherish the good memories, and dont really martir yourself. wish you the best, fellow stranger.


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yea ur right. i usually dont really mourn people i lose cause that happens idk why its different with her.. but thanks xxx

by nighttmarish; ; Report

yea ur right. i usually dont really mourn people i lose cause that happens idk why its different with her.. but thanks xxx

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