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I need some advice :(
ever since my bff got a boyfriend, I feel like I've been second to her and every time I bring it up she gets defensive, but also I dropped everyone else I was friends with because they treated her like shit. Im not blaming her, they weren't good friends to me either but at the same time I'm a little angry that I'm second to him. I write her letters, do her laundry, cook her food and he barely tells her he loves her or thinks she's gorgeous. So, we and him haven't been getting a long and she finally snapped at us for doing that, but still I feel like I'm either invalid for wanting some time with her. She'll spend three whole days with him, and I'll barely get time to FaceTime her. Its been two weeks since we last hung out, and I feel like she's gonna end up ignoring me one day. Any advice?
xoxo, pierced princess
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Zoseph
if it has been less than 4-5 month then it is likely just that "honeymoon" period, in most relationships, even ultimately short lived incompatible ones, they can just be fueled by Novelty alone for a handful of months.
So honestly maybe just wait it out and the equilibrium will return. I will say, it sounds like you do, like a lot with her and unless you have feelings for her - not necessarily romantic, but being that you are also limited it seems in peer group, very attachment based. I understand its hard to watch her make silly decisions, but maybe it wold be good to refocus on redefining your relationship with your peers solely on your emotional intuition, and maybe even seek out totally new people to bring into the fold, so that you won't have to have this pressure to hang out with specifically her all the time.
Good luck and hold on! Providing offspring dont happen she will likely figure out there are better candidates on her own time, just slower than we'd all like I am sure XD - I've been where you are at before, fo sure