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Listen, I get it. Men and women, majority think differently. Women value the act of trying to understand and explore their emotions, while men value the act of learning to deal with and bouncing back from those emotions. Women value subtlety, while men value directness. Women compliment more, men criticise more. Both are valid and have their pros and cons.
While it's true that the majority of women and majority of men have a difference in mindset, many fail to state that this is a matter of culture more than biology.
Girls are generally just raised different than boys. As a girl who was raised the same as my brothers, and who was frequently outcasted from female friend groups due to my interests, I feel like living proof of that.
I cannot understand things that other women can understand straight away, it has to be explained to me. I've had women upset at me for something I don't understand I did wrong, but men thanking me for doing the exact same thing. The amount of times I've been told "You think like a man" despite me talking soft and wearing the cutest girly clothes ever amazes me.
It's all because I was never told I was pretty growing up. And I never had friends tell me "You got this, I know you can do it", it was always "I mean, it's worth a shot". And as much as I loved ponies and princesses just by sheer interest, as a result of my brothers and mostly male friendships, I enjoyed playing with Hotwheels and Tonka-ish knock off trucks too. These, from my recent research seem to be trends in biologically male childhoods.
All this amounts to me being somewhat of a social "exception" to some groups of people. I've had the same kind of misogynistic "Alpha" men, whose ramblings about high value men/women annoy me to the core, tell me "I bet you're a 10" simply because of my interest in being a cute submissive housewife. Or being called an "lowkey feminist icon" by the female friends I only JUST obtained recently, simply because of my abilities and interests being somewhat different than the status quo for women.
But I'm not any of that, I'm literally just being a normal functioning, albeit mildly neurodivergent, human being with a specific set of interests and desires that exist for no other reason than "I like it".
And the Alpha men will say "women this, women that" and the radical feminists will say "men this, men that" but I think it's bullshit. While I see their points, I just generally don't want to stereotype, because to me, stereotyping is for the weak. It's for people who are afraid of uncertainty, so they latch onto a false narrative of certainty.
And people will say "what about PMS?' but, PMS is temporary. What about every other week of every month for a woman? I may have my cranky PMS fits too, but as soon as I snap out of it, I feel like total shit about it and apologize with the most dead and ashamed stare. And when I don't have my period or aren't nearing my period, I'm mentally just chill.
We're all the same kind of human. It's not that y'all are fundamentally different, y'all just don't want get along.
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Hostuu
Yes! Nuance!
Adrian Tzun
This is a fenomen that is potencially growing right now on internet, and that makes his way into reality. The mayority of people is more confortable making stereotypes of everyone, because it helps them to make themselves more comfortable.
"He's black or white?" "She's far-right or far-left?" "He likes that? Why don't he likes that?" "She said that? That's unbelieveble!"
It's sad, but social media like TikTok and Twitter encourages that kind of thinking. There is no more the patience to actually understand things and people. For example, the people who critices your art... they even watch it? They have actually take his time to listen your music or read your blogs?
But, we can take our steps to fight that back or, at least, be far away enought to be not part of the problem. Spaces like this it's what we need to express ourselfs. This are my thoughts.
Valentine
i agree. even though there is evidence that your sex, or atleast your hormones, affect your brain and how you process and react to things, we are not wild animals..? like we can talk and communicate and choose NOT to act that way.
ik its easy to write off others who you dont understand as completely different from you, especially when their actions have hurt you, but its a really bad habit people need to grow out of
True, we're just so quick to hate on what we don't understand. While I understand xenophobia is a normal human instinct, it's often times problematic in this day and age...
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