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For context, I am starting university soon and i was thinking of going for medical checkups so I can start my process of getting testosterone. So around the start of 2025. The thing is i don't know if i should come out to them first then start on my transition journey OR start my journey then come out to them if they start noticing the changes. I don't know if my parents are supportive, they confuse me sometimes. My dad I would say he's pretty cool with lgbtq+ people because he has gay friends. My mom? Not really sure. I remember I had a conversation with both of my parents on their views on transgender people and they said "No i don't have trans friends but if it's their life, why even bother?" I think i almost slipped up once with my mom because I have a badge on my bag that says "I ❤️ Emo Boys" and i fumbled hard when my mom saw it and i said "Oh because I am one, i meannn as in aesthetic" I swear the next two days she called me her emo BOY i don't know if that is a joke or what but damn 😭😭 yeah so idk if my parents seem supportive because I have a good relationship with them! I remember my dad said something along the lines that "I seem like I have XY chromosomes" I am mentally going insane no cap 🥲
Oh.. and recently, my mom bought me 4 binders online with the title being in chinese with the word "T" cuz she knows i love wearing those so i feel like maybe she knows but i am still unsure cuz you know how asian parents are, i just want to be very sure I am safe but i would say they are quite progressive in a way.
So come out to parents BEFORE i start my transition or come out to parents MIDDLE of my transition? Do you think it's safe for me to do so? :')))
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kenny
I think based on what you said since your parents are at the very least neutral-leaning-positive then it *should* be safe for you to come out. However, some people's parents are supportive in general but can get a bit weird when it's their own child or someone else close to them. In my opinion, you can come out before you start your transition but maybe wait until you're fully set to go to uni because then you can be away from them if something goes wrong. Obviously you know your situation better than I do, so if you do feel unsafe then listen to your gut and don't come out.
I hope it all goes well for you and good luck with your transition :D