My problem with “relationship naming”

    As a person who writes and was born a “thought daughter” I pay a lot of mind to words and their meanings. 

  Maybe I should stop wondering about this, but I have a feeling that these days words like “I love you” , “best friend” completely lost their meaning.

 It feels like they are thrown towards everyone, I see this everyday and I have to admit, I do care about it.

    Speaking from personal experience, I know a person who constantly calls me their best friend, the thing is we know almost nothing about each other. 

 This relationship for me can only be described as “acquaintances”, not even friends.  

Myself I assigned the word “best friend” to two people whom I know like the back of my hand, I find support in them, for they have seen me at my worst and I feel like I’ve found my compatible spirits. 

I cannot find the meaning of this “title” in a person, who sadly can’t realise we are bearly above strangers.

    Them making me feel guilty when I don’t share every aspect of my life of my life with them, when I would understand it, if they did the same( they do not).

Whenever I post about my closest friends, they leave me with an uncomfortable to answer “What about me/hj”. 

  Unfortunately I can’t bring myself to deep a relationship with someone, who:

1) Speaks to a person who hurt me beyond limits, while knowing the situation first hand 

2) Calls me their wife, despite me explaining multiple times that it makes me quite uncomfortable

    To conclude, I personally think we should think about our relationship with people and adjusting words and actions to them, for words have meanings and they make a great impact on our mind. 

We also should not press on people to create relationships, most meaningful ones come to us when least expect.

    So to all, please respect people, your friends and pay attention to situations, actions and most importantly, words that we use 

  With love, 

Melia <3