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Okay, I've seen one of few many Myspace-... SpaceHey account with something on their about me that goes along the lines of this:
About Me:
HAAIIIIIIII!!!!!!!!!!!! HE/SHE/THEY/XE/FAER!!!!!!!11!! I HAVE [Mental disorder 1,2 & 3. Depends.]!!!!!!!!! MINOR!!!!! TRANS + GAY [Depends again]!!!!!!! xD :3 !!!!!! I LOVE [Band, Musicians, colour or film.]!!!!
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Now, yes, you might go "Rome Hoal, you can't control what others do on the internet!" and you're correct about that, but, seeing these accounts makes me worried about the well being of the person and the people who might go after them, now yes, SpaceHey is mostly made up of children from 12-17 (Yes, 12 year olds are on this site now.). The most common age being 13-16.
Now, I want to discuss the people who run these accounts or who are friends with them.
It isn't a good idea to put your mental disorder like BPD, Depression, ADHD, OCD and more on your bio for the public to see! Especially strangers.
There are sickos on the internet who see these accounts and know they can take advantage of them since they have a mental disorder.
(Sorry if this sounds iffy, I wrote another version but I lost it when I closed my entire window and it's 2:19AM as I write this, so this marks the end of it.)
[Edit: A friend of mine wrote this "These profiles that openly blast their "mental disorders" are usually just instances of self-diagnosis by ignorant hormonal teenagers. They're going through puberty and feeling misunderstood, so they assign themselves quirky labels for a sense of understanding and validation. They're also just keeping up with the latest trends."]
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zirconieee
The generic pronouns, label.png, triggerword.jpeg doesnt do much harm in the grand scheme of things.
As long as they're not trying to facilitate contact with pedophiles i really couldnt give less of a shit about some 13 yr old who uses pup/pupself. Old man yells at cloud and what not.
Kids do stupid stuff, they get shit for it or get bored of it and then they move on and grow. If anything being cringe is a necessary point on the pipeline of becoming humble and well adjusted.
Hælios ✮⋆˙๋࣭ ⭑
totally agree, and I would also add that I've seen a lot of kids being s*xual on this site and then hit with "12!! MINOR!!!" in the bio like wtf what are you even doing??
Exactly
by Romehoal21; ; Report
🌈 yoko
im a currently 14 years old aroace person with actual autism and adhd and good thing i didnt do those on my about me.
JACKSON FREAKWEAK
i feel like this comment is said sm online but is so back handed, if u wanna care abt oversharing on the internet then i feel like theres better ways to word it, and more issues than jst "mentioning yr disorderz". but that culd jst b cuz this statement phrased in this way is usually a ableist, sanist, and/or transphobia (or more) dog whistle. i do think theres a lot to be said about how increasingly oversharing and unsafe ppl hav gotten, but this isn't the best way 2 start that dialogue.
James
thank you rome hoal, love you rome hoal
You're welcome, thanks!
by Romehoal21; ; Report
Hamnnaton
I agree!
Arsenium-P
Fair point, but I can't help but think this post was passive-aggressively transphobic. Like, what was the point on dunking on neopronouns and people having "trans and gay" on their profile if you're just complaining about them having their mental disorders in there?
I just found it weird that you'd bring attention to it. It has nothing to do with what you're talking about.
by Arsenium-P; ; Report
Oh lmao sorry, I thought you were OP.
by Arsenium-P; ; Report
OP here, I didn't mean to make it sound transphobic I'm dumb at writing essays but I notice this a lot and on Twitter sometimes and it just makes me concerned a lot, I'm sorry if it sounds just transphobic or abeilist I just want the best for people.
by Romehoal21; ; Report
Emi ~ !!
i have that im Audhd jst because I always get asked why I act in a certain way and its just easier to let people know off the bat that I'm Autistic and have ADHD instead of being asked a bunch of questions later . but people who add their entire medical list concern me. Its so dangerous especially if said person has something like D.I.D (and isn't faking) telling thousands of people on the internet that your childhood severely traumatise you isn't a good idea!
baguette
i think listing your entire medical history in your bio is unsafe.
for me the only exception is mentioning your neurodivergence and/or any sensory processing disorder. as someone with hyperacusis, letting people know about it makes a huge difference in my quality of life.
BASIL ☆
even as someone who would often be lumped in with this sorta crowd (trans gay neurodivergent minor lmao) i kinda agree with this,.. i dont wanna victim blame anyone who has bad things happen to them online obviously but i get so uncomfortable when i look in someone my age (or YOUNGER which is wild to me) 's bio and see 'hypersexual' or a long list of disorders .. its like when people used to make those trigger lists of just everything that upsets them and then inevitably someone would take advantage of that. its just worrying i guess??
its so weird when people especially minors say that they're hypersexual online. We don't need to know that, that's personal info that you shouldn't be sharing, it doesn't effect the way you interact with people normally like Autism does (like the only exception) so don't tell randos online that you have it
by Emi ~ !!; ; Report
Roka
i think your friend is definitely right. but to be fair, you never know who may be just barely hanging on in this obscure corner of the internet. so at the very least, we can all be nice to each other :3
p.s. - not accusing you of not being nice. just saying thats all we can really do lol
Rosesofblood
it's so weird seeing CHILDREN put in their sexuality in their bio like i DONT need to know that...
same for the mental illnesses it almost feels attention seeking?? But if I say that then they get really offended
✮⋆˙ Greyson/Bowie ✮⋆˙
yeah like fr people should NOT put all their information online, especially if your a minor you shouldn’t put that in your bio. If you have any mental disorders that might affect your behaviour towards people just perhaps send a private message about it to a person on this platform you seem to chat a lot with. Its okay not to put your legal name, face, age, country etc etc out there and probably even a bit better if you don’t. Trust me i have quite close internet friends of whom i’ve never even heard their voice (these people are online so much or just chat so much about certain interests and all so i’m like 99% sure these aren’t bad old creepy people) if you type like “OOOH HIIIIII WELCOMEE!!!!!! XD” people will probably guess quickly that your 12/13 aswel soooo maybe try not to do that too much?
ROBYBOW
i always thought it was super weird for any minor
to put their sexuality in their bio/about me.
and it gets even weirder because i see some people on
spacehey put their sexuality in their bio but not their age.
in my mind when someone puts their sexuality in their bio
it means they're looking for a relationship and if you're a minor
you shouldn't be looking for that publicly online.
sydney
i dont get why they flex it. i have a ton of mental illnesses but i dont flaunt them in my bio lmfao
jakearoni
totally used to list my disorders as kinda like a warning. now i realize that thats super dumb and could get me into more trouble! now i just say that ive got some issues and may be difficult to talk to because my mental issues are nooobodys business. this should really be said more often because its really normalized to just list every mental disorder you have. its really dangerous!
r0ttn_zmbie
I agree, I feel like stating mental issues should be saved for when the person is having a serious down to earth conversation, and not used to glamorize or romanticize being mentally unwell.
niko #miserable condom :<
This isn't a controversial take
It's just stating the obvious
Ppl here are just gullible
I've had to learn that the hard way
I'm always sceptical abt everyone
john
this ain’t controversial bro this is just common sense that these people lack
The chronically online people will find it controversial and I'll probably be burnt on the stake for saying this, I asked a question to someone as to why they needed to put they had a mental illness on a post and I got multiple downvotes for that - which means, that wasn't really good.
I just asked a question, didn't really mean for it to be rude or anything since I'm stupid but I did say: "Why did you write you have [mental illness]?" I don't know if that sounds rude or anything.
Which is why, it's called "Controversial Opinion".
by Romehoal21; ; Report
yeahyeah i getchu but im saying YOURE not the controversial one. people these days want u to think that if you got a different opinion than them, cuz they think only their opinion is the right one.
kids nowadays are so weird with how much they share on the internet, it’s kinda sad.
either way man keep being you, don’t let them change ur opinion.
by john; ; Report
ArmoredAlchemist
Agreed. Like if you wanna discuss these things, fine! but be more subtle about it, don’t go putting up a big ol “here’s how to best upset me” billboard.
Not to mention all the kids who put “18+ DNI!! Don’t interact if you’re an adult because I’m a MINOR!!!! No over 18 plz! Pedos keep out!!!” like… Look, as someone who has had many long-lasting close internet friendships, I’ll be the first to say not everyone online is a 30yo basement dwelling kidnapper like parents in the 2000s used to say they were, but still. What’s to stop an actual predator from going “haha yeah I’m totally 14 years old, skibidi toilet what the sigma lol! haha btw do you wanna video chat” ykwim? The lack of internet safety awareness nowadays is scary and concerning :(