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no this isnt a transphobic blog im moreso talking about how a lot of trans people often go back to being cis due to society (me being one of them)
when i was in middle school i use to go by he/him pronouns. I would dress more masculine and act more masculine yet people would still call me by she/her; yes i know i am originally born a girl but at the time i was doing everything to not look like one i was more androgynous looking
once i now got into highschool i stopped trying, i went back to she/her rponouns becuz yk why try anymore if ppl arent gonna get it right i basiclly gave up
i honestly miss being trans i felt more happy at the time and more carefree not caring wat ppl thought ugh its so stupid i miss it
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◞ vivi ! ‧₊˚
hi gang!! fellow trans person here ( girlflux :) ) you don't have to change yourself for society :( it is absolutely okay to identify the way you want to and respectfully if other people can't accept that then maybe you just shouldn't be around them at all.
find people who support you regardless of your identity and don't feel forced to change who you are because of society's toxic standards. you can't please everyone and you don't have to either. it's very important that you be yourself and be around people who are okay with that and who will respect your identity.
i understand correcting people on what pronouns they use for you or just generally misgendering is extremely exhausting and you have the right to feel tired but please don't give up! don't be scared to call them out and i mean genuinely don't be scared to call people out on their behavior if they keep misgendering you. and i don't mean just say "can you use the right pronouns-" no you should genuinely call them out on their repeated behavior and how insensitive it truly is. if they don't understand by then they clearly don't respect your identity and you should not be near them. they do not deserve you if they're gonna be so disrespectful because of your gender identity.
but at the end of the day it's all your choice. if you feel comfortable with being cis then that's okay and you will be loved & supported regardless, but if you don't really feel comfy with it then note that it can get unhealthy to maintain the habit of hiding who you are. never pretend to be someone you're not, they'll figure out who you are anyway. the real you is still there. seriously though i understand you completely and i hope you're okay, make the choice that's right for you!