Quick movie review

(Guess the movie, cuz I won't say the title lol)

SO this movie I just watched made me have very many thoughts, but posting them in a serious movie review place like Rotten Tomatoes or IMDB or letterboxd is scaryyy, it opens me up to criticism and scrutiny from people that know about the topic!!!! So, I'm just going to post my secret final thoughts about it here!

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TW!! there's P*dophile shit in this movie.

For some context: In this movie some middle aged guy falls for a 16 year old girl. I watched the movie because I saw someone online talking about it and I wanted to watch more "generally known" movies.

I know the general public sees it as, and the filmmakers made it in a way that made it, a story ABOUT the pedophile. Where we're supposed to feel for him. But... this movie hits me in a different way, not in the way that is: "omg poor pedophile they killed him right when he stopped being a pedo :("

I might come back to this, but first I'd like to address a different thing.

I saw some people say the female characters have no depth, that their stories revolve around a man. And those people are probably right! I know the filmmakers wanted me to see certain things in a: "Omg unlikely love story?! Good for her!" way, and I understand that's the reason why I've seen a lot of people hate this movie, those "love" stories are absolutely disgusting. (For the nerds: yeah, I get that the love stories being imperfect is part of the movie in a way and makes it more human and blah blah.) 

But, I still can't truly despise the movie. For me, the female characters remind me of parts of myself in a way. Or of women in my life. Maybe I'm like the characters in the movie, and my life revolves around men, but some men have hurt me in ways that make separating myself and what makes up my identity from them almost impossible; so seeing women being hurt by men, centering men, forgiving men for creepy shit, feeling VALIDATED by those men, and all of this without even realizing they are being hurt or that they're hurting themselves, really hits hard.

This movie hurts me, because every bad decision, every disgusting act, every predatory moment, every time the man is being disgusting towards the young girl, it reminds me of certain things that have happened to me, even though they're prob not nearly as bad as it was in the movie. It's really a shame that I know this movie was made by a man that probably hasn't gone through these things, and that all of these VERY PERSONAL feelings it brings upon me are (most likely) unintentional. It sucks that I won't be able to say "I like this movie, at least to a certain degree" without having to explain my entire thought process behind it.

So basically, what hurts me isn't the pedo dying and all, what hurt me is the women. The girl. The disgusting, predatory thoughts and acts of this man remind me of very personal experiences where I was that girl. I can see myself in both girls that were creeped on, by different men of different ages in different ways. I can see myself feeling flattered because a guy older than them is doing things he shouldn't. I can't hate this movie. It uncovered feelings I wanted to keep buried. Not to mention, the moments with the family where the pedo shit was put to the side, and some of the scenes that family went through mirrored my childhood homelife, which made me feel it personally a lot more.

But whatever, this movie prob sucks and my teen brain just likes anything it watches lol :b

Bye