Something thats been on my mind for a few weeks now

I've been married for 7 years to my husband. Threw out those years we have been through so much. From traveling across the states. To abuse which lead to court and him having to take DV classes. He has since completed this class and has not hit me for about 6 months now. But since he no longer hits me, he just says the most hateful and fucked up shit that he can think of. While about 3 weeks ago my in laws (who we live with) had gotten a new mattress and asked if we wanted their old one. Now I jumped at a new mattress because old one was falling apart and was just no longer comfortable. So, the day comes for us to move are old mattress out and move the new one in. I woke up and I got one thing in mind "The faster we get these mattresses moved around the faster we can lay back down." I get up my in laws are already calling me because the new mattress is here, and they have the something in their head as do which lets hurry up to do this. Now I'm pretty strong for a female and yes, I can move a mattress by myself, but you know I'm married I shouldn't have to you do it alone. So, I wake up my husband and he just doesn't want to get up or move. So, I say " Come one the faster you get up the faster we can get all this done and the faster you can lay back down." Well, he gets up with the biggest attitude in the world. which means he is going to move as slow as a turtle. Which means he is going to make coffee and smoke a cig and do a bunch of other stuff. Which mind you have not done any of these things either because we all just want to hurry up. So, he goes up stairs and does he slow tasks. Now this leaves me downstairs like you know what fuck it I'm just going to do it because I want to get it done. So, I get the box spring up and get in the door it gets stuck and I'm trying to move it and push and do what I can to get it up a flight of stairs. So about 15-20 mins pass and finally he comes and stands at the top of the stairs and instead of just being like " hey you go on that end ill grab this side and let's get it up these stairs." He just stands there and watches me struggle. Which on top of me not having luck get it in the right angle and him not helping and now him just watching was just starting to piss me off. So, I look up and just say " Are you going to offer some help or just stand there and watch your fucking struggle." he reply's " well are you going to ask for help or just be a bitch?" Like in my head I'm like you got some nerve. But instead of saying that i just looked away and said, "never fucking mind man." Which of course lead him to saying a bunch of fucked up shit to try and hurt my feelings. I just start yelling for him to "get away from the area I was using" and I'm yelling this over and over again. Then I hear him say " I think about other women when we have sex" I didn't give him a reaction that he was looking for he wanted it to piss me off and to do something I regret Instead though it was like dam I have never ever in my life been told something like that. Like I've been with a lot of guys and girls in my 27 years of life. I've also been fucked over by a lot of these people. I've been a secret, I've been used, I've been lied to, and so much more. Never has a guy told me that they think about someone else when we have sex. Like I'm not ugly. I've never had trouble finding a boyfriend or even just find someone to fuck. Since he said it I don't see him the same. Like it makes me question everything and I hate it. Because I've given this man 7 years of my life I've moved for him I've lost family for him. Even left all my support system behind to be with him. I've always had his back right or wrong. He doesn't have a job and he hasn't had one in 3 years. So, I work I pay his bills and mine and provide for are daughter. I support his habits and I even buy him whatever he wants. I work 5 days a week to make sure this family stays above water I barely see my daughter because by the time I wake up and leave for work she's just waking up. By the time I get home she's asleep and, on my days, off I try and spend as much time with her as possible. But it's like how do you say that to a woman who's has done nothing but love and support you and who has stood by your side threw everything. Like he thinks I'm overreacting because I wont hug him or kiss him or even have sex with him. I just tell him it doesn't feel the same that one comment has me questioning are whole marrige.