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I recall that I have had the opportunity to try "aphrodisiac chocolates," and in my experience, they did in fact have the intended effect. Of course, I think it to be rather unlikely that the simple candies actually did anything to my body, but the fact that I perceived there to be a notable increase in the intended desire suggests that the idea of these chocolates having this effect on me was the sole cause of my body feeling this way.
It is in this strange effect that I find the topic of perceived reality to be a rather interesting one. When someone truly and wholly believes something to be true, then it may as well be true in their world. This is particularly true when those around said individual have the same shared view of a topic. Of course I'm getting rather off-topic from the aforementioned chocolates, but those were never really the purpose of this post.
This shared perceived reality is a dangerous and powerful thing, and can either make or break someone's life when they find they do not fit into the vision of the group. Most often, this idea is applied to family settings and is referred to as the "family nexus."
Take the all too common example of transgender (and other queer) individuals who are raised and held in a rather unsupportive, possibly hostile environment. The family nexus in which they find themselves in may believe that transgender people are a blight on society, or that they are mentally ill, or dangerous, or any other negative thing. This leads to them feeling isolated, unloved, and altogether hateful of what they truly are, and can lead to a rather lasting sense of shame and internalized negative beliefs.
This unfortunately is what I believe drives the stereotype and falsehood that half of all transgender individuals make some attempt to end their own lives. These echo chambers of hate towards this demographic is such a scary thing to be caught in, and these intense feelings of shame and self-hatred can truly drive someone to the point of self-harm and possibly an attempt on their life.
Of course, this statistic is complete bullshit. But the effect of the family nexus is not to be understated as something which traps and stifles the lives and potentials of so many individuals.
I do not really have an end point in this blog post, as there is not much yet I have found that helps with this issue. Actually, well, that is not quite true. I may make a secondary follow-up post to this, addressing ways for those who may feel they are trapped like this to feel less so, and eventually branch out their beautiful leaves to places they are more readily loved and accepted.
Do stay safe, my friends. <3
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Hazel
It’s rather upsetting to me how families so often disown their children - flesh and blood, their newborns - so cruelly after they discover that the child is a separate person. As if being what they didn’t expect is a sin of all sins. Your son wants to be your daughter? /Your/ daughter - still wanting to be apart of the family but no, the ignorant tunnels of the parents mind convince the body to lash out, to damage their offsprings image.
At that point is where I am convince more and more that childbirth is selfish in its roots. The parent has a vice grip on their child’s image. They want a specific thing, and when they get it, it’s like they’re guarding fresh kill. They are starved for the perfect reality and their dream child. At that point the parent never wanted a child, they want a plaything. An accessory.
I think if you are to bring a life into the world, you must let it be a life, not just a plaything to mold and shape. Let it grow on its own and morph into whatever twisted thing it may be.
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