my bitch wife made a pees pants joke and i doxxed him and called him 3 slurs, AITA?

a week ago i (54m) was talking to my wife (55m) and he made a joke along the lines of "omg stopppp im gonna peeee" and then a few messages later sent "ouuhh >///< *pees my pants* oopsies... sowry" and i thought that was kinda weird so i sent him an IP grabber and then put his full name, address, IP and credit card info online and I cussed him out for it with words i do feel a little bad for... he told me i was overreacting and that i was a dickhead asshole who should die in a hole with nobody to love in my final moments? am i the asshole? i feel like he was kinda being a bit much with the way he responded :/