2 - freedom

the real drama for him comes when life leads him for one reason or another to experience loss. that is when the pain becomes unbearable and it is like dying. you feel emotional, psychological and physical pain, as if an internal part of your body is missing; he feels devastated and has the feeling that he will not be able to live without his loved one, who accompanied him, who protected him in life (more in an idealising fantasy than in reality). life itself loses meaning. there is the emptiness of the loss of the loved person, there is the emptiness of the loss of the person that one yearns for and hates because it does not correspond. very often, death confronts him not only with his love, but also with his repressed hate. however, that for the boy could be a great opportunity for growth, such excruciating pain could open the way to autonomy and the realisation that he can get by on his own. he may discover through that shock that in addition to not dying for the first time he can really live, make decisions, live time for himself, dedicate himself to listening and caring; he may discover, when what is for him a fundamental bond is broken, what it means to be free. as long as he remains under the wing of the other for fear of life he will never know what it means to live.