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i feel like this is common knowledge for most people with morals, but it’s so god damn frustrating for me i feel like i’m going to explode. i’ve been helping my partner for our whole relationship with our conflicting views on p0rn, almost three years. i’m not anti porn i know everyone’s boundaries are different, but i am a very sensitive woman which they know. it’s always me feeling like i’m competing against someone on a screen, even more so when they aren’t even the same gender as me consistently ngl (is that bad, i hope it isn’t)
i feel like i’m about to blow a fuse but i want to be supportive, i want to help. i don’t believe people in relationships should be watching that stuff honestly, the thought of my partner lusting over someone that isn’t me makes me physically ill.
am i crazy? yeah a bit, but i feel like i’m in the right here to be freaking out. i found a bookmark for some egirl hoe five days after my birthday !!
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riv
Porn has been shown to promote violence in men, lots of deaths in sex are caused by porn addicted men etc etc. lots of sex trafficking too. Porn should be banned
jhris
This is why I am anti-p0rn. It's not good for your soul. P0rn addiction ruins relationships and marriages.
I did a cheap Google for a source. I only skimmed through it, but it seems to say "[P0rn] has been shown to significantly decrease sexual intimacy, connection, and sexual quality of long-term relationships" (Geer, 2023).
https://digitalcommons.liberty.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1005&context=nexus
∑GexxeG
I see both sides- I hate porn yet- I know some people who do have a porn addiction. most guys are addicted. look- interests have nothing to do with porn addiction. most guys just do it to what ever. You see... the real addiction isn't "oh I want to be with that online person" its more of "mmm what stimulates my brain the fastest?"
You see- its more about the chemical release in the brain that occurs during an orgasm which can make things feel more manageable and less cloudy. It is legit like drugs.
Also another thing. Most men would not discuss it openly with therapists or psychiatrists because men are commonly conditioned at a young age to tough things out and bottle up feelings. Masturbation is release of that.
Dart Highwind
It really comes down to the boundaries between people.
My fiance and I have no problem with it. We even watch it together.
Some people are less fine with it and that's perfectly fine.
For everyone out there in internet land reading this comment, this is one of those things you need to talk with your partner about when you start being *close* with them, otherwise it's gonna come bite you in the ass later.
If it's a big enough deal, there are professionals out there who can help with such things. Marriage counselors, pr0n addiction specialists, etc.
But it all needs to start with open, honest, and upfront communication.
on god, i try helping almost ween them off of it, they said they didn’t wanna watch it. but it’s not them not wanting to watch it, moreso lie to me to watch it it seems. i’ve always been very clear on my boundaries on that stuff so it’s just a tad annoying to find it time and time again.
i wouldn’t even be upset if he was honest about it, it just always catches me off guard
by gashleen; ; Report
Can't really do much about it at that point other than leave.
It's one thing to have an addiction but to refuse assistance off said addiction and especially lie about it, then yeah. It's particularly egregious.
People only have so much patience.
Best I can say is that if they're worth the work, keep working. Otherwise, it may be best to look elsewhere for a partner.
by Dart Highwind; ; Report
agreed Dart
by ∑GexxeG; ; Report