Why Am I Single?

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genuine answer,its not that urgent if ur 14! if you have a crush on someone as soon as you're sure you would want to date them ask them out,its better to let the butterflies on ur chest free as soon as you can, if you get rejected then it is what it is!

(even if you get accepted its not gonna last the long if ur not actually into eachother enough to keep your relationship steady, from my experience!)

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1717713950

You're young, don't rush any of this stuff and focus on other things, its a waste of time for you. TRUUUUUUSTTTTTTT me

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1717663516

OMG GIRL!! you're young and you're still figuring it all out the last thing you need is a relationship because they are so complicated (especially in high school good lord). and just because you aren't dating anyone doesn't mean you're "unworthy" or "ugly" if anything there are probably more ppl with crushes on you then you think lol. but from what i can gather from this post is that you are absolutely amazing!! my advice as a girl who also went through this. its perfectly normal to feel this way. you're GROWING! this shit is terrifying. feel those feelings!!! give yourself a moment and then get up reassure yourself, do something nice to make you feel better, and move on. it may seem like it at times but the world doesn't end when you're a teenager. you've git this!!

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1717467396

Please do not make this your whole mission in life. Don't base your identity and purpose on a woman or man or relationship.
Make it your very last priority.
Join a gym or martial arts club, go for walks and spend less time online. I'm not being preachy - I know this from experience.

Attention comes when you're not interested in it.

Peace.

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1717401573

honestly, i lost my first kiss too soon and to the wrong person. honestly, even though being single cause youre weird or different sucks, it means that when you make that connection with someone who really wants to be with you it makes it way more special. were in this boat together bro! i just wish i didnt force myself to find someone quick when i was younger

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1717247227

maybe ur just too good for ur city lol

or maybe someones waiting

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1717025853

omfg same here buddy :(

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1716945981

bkenny basically said it all but i'd like to add 3 things:
1 - just cause people haven't asked you out, doesn't mean you've never had an admirer!! no one ever truly knows how many people admire, like, or even love them cause most people simply don't say it. so you don't have to worry about being unlikeable, cause there's an incredibly high possibility multiple people have had a crush on you at some point and just never said anything about it.

2 - (optional) if you ever do truly feel ready to start looking for a relationship when you're older, not to fit in but for whatever personal reasons you'd have for wanting a relationship, i fully recommend being friends with whatever person catches your eye before trying to start something because trust is important and if you start the relationship romantically instead of building up to it you could accidentally ignore red flags or not know certain things about that person that you might think of as a dealbreaker. this is more of a guideline, though.

3 - know your worth!! in a lot (not all, but a lot) of abusive/toxic relationships, the abuser shows some questionable/red flag behavior that might get overlooked in the beginning but could become more dangerous as time goes on. this goes for any kind of relationship, whether its family, friends, partners, coworkers, bosses, etc. so try to watch out for any signs that the other person may not be right for you, and if you find them, run. its best to exit any form of relationship you can as soon as you notice the signs, instead of waiting for someone to change or waiting for another sign to show up. remember it is never your responsibility to change someone else's abusive behavior, and if they do truly want to change, you don't have to stick around while they do it. if they do eventually change and you feel comfortable enough to bring them into your life again, that's perfectly okay, just keep a bit of an emotional distance until you are completely sure they've gotten rid of their bad habits/behaviors. ️‍🩹

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1716780757

I’m sure your personality is fine. I was a little confused on how to answer this until I saw your profile. You’re 14, dude. All your friends are getting quick hookups that probably won’t last, and you just happen to be in the majority of people who don’t have a partner. You’re too young to have to worry about being unlovable or not fitting in without a partner or any of that — you’ve still got plenty of time.

The best way to attract what you want is to just be yourself. The right person will come along, you just need to be truthful and be patient. Actively seeking out a partner just so you can fit in with your friends will get you in trouble, if you even get anything at all. Especially for a young person like you, people are still figuring themselves out and will be making bad decisions, and you don’t want to be searching for somebody to make you even with your friends amidst all that. Just wait.

Time is money, but you, my friend — you’re rich. Don’t sweat it, kiddo. You’ll find that special somebody.

- bkenny

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1716343303

I understand you, I'm going through the same thing and I don't think there's much you can do other than try to talk to people you're interested in. Sometimes, someone may like you, but they don't have the courage to take the initiative! I'm always reminded that I'm the only one who's never kissed or dated in my group of friends, but I just ignore it, that's not their problem after all.

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1716284026

the only way you're gonna form a lasting relationship is being yourself. so you don't need to change anything about yourself. what you should maybe focus on is talking to lots of new people you find interesting, talking to them on a regular basis and maybe signing up for a dating app, or waiting until you're old enough to sign up for a dating app. If you increase the chances of meeting new and more people, you'll increase the chances of finding someone you love and that loves you back.

Also, don't try and get into a relationship just because someone else is in one. I know it often feels like a contest, but if you give in to the contest then you'll only cause yourself and others pain.

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