AITA? - SA, GR00MING, PED0PHIL1A

AITA for misunderstanding my guy friend who got SA'ED?

I'm a teenage girl and my guy friend is around three years older than me. I met him around mid-April on a video game. We became pretty close and I found out that he likes girls and guys. Now, my guy friend, let's call him R; cannot pull girls. He's mostly into guys, and so he gets classified as a 'gay' guy, even though he's not. One time while we were on a freestyle roleplay server, I randomly started sharing things about my family. R then opened up about his SA story, that his aunt had SA'ED him when he was younger. I comforted him about it, and told him that everything was gonna be okay now.

Now, May 10 2024, we were having a conversation. I had been add friended by a guy here, who seemed to be a p3do and gr00med me online. Now, I asked if it was alright to share about it in our group chat with our two other friends, P and Z. P and Z are mostly inactive late at night, so it was just me and R, chatting. We were sharing our experiences with older men as a joke, and he then mentioned that if his '20 year old fling' would ask him to get back together again, he would.

10 minutes later, he starts messaging, word for word;

' I can still feel her hands on me. I'm going crazy.'

Me, being stupid as heck, misunderstood and thought he was talking about the 20 year old he would gladly go back to. I was trying to joke, saying ' It was a girl? I didn't know you could pull girls. ' I said. He then started telling me that what I said was disgusting, because he was talking about his r@per. I then realized what I had just said, and immediately started apologizing and explaining what went wrong.

No reply.

I messaged more and more in the group chat, until he wouldn't even check the messages anymore. I then realized that if I had kept going and sent more messages n the group chat, our other friends would be more concerned, and so I went to a PM(PRIVATE MESSAGE) with him. I told him that I was sorry and that he had every right to be angry at me. I wrote a paragraph and said countless apologies to R.

No reply.

I'm concerned for him, but I just wish he understood that what I said was a mistake, and an event of miscommunication. AM I THE ASSHOLE?