People like us.

I added someone on SpaceHey yesterday because I saw they were struggling with making friends & I wanted to help them. They commented on one of my blog posts where I talked about how dreary I felt after I was blocked & ghosted by a former SpaceHey friend I had (my first one, actually). They commented something that resonated with me deeply, “ online friendships are tricky, we live in a society with a lot of technology and with that we have forgotten normal things like etiquette and so on; why should i say goodbye to you when its far easier to just leave without a trace ? one option is a lot kinder, while the other is convenient. some people online just do not view a friendship as you or i would, as something very personal and something meaningful, you know ?” It felt earnest, I related to what they said a lot. It felt upstanding & genuine. Like they understood the struggle of making friends online. Like they were a nice person. I started talking to them because I cared for their well-being.
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As I write this blog post, they have blocked me & ghosted me—the same thing that happened with my first ever SpaceHey friend. It’s disappointing, I can’t pretend like it hasn’t hurt me. It seems so malicious. You ghost me a day after reading how much being ghosted hurt me. Weren’t you the one who said friendships should be “purposeful & something meaningful”? Weren’t you the one who reassured me that there are “ that wouldn't be so rude about something like this”? Wouldn’t you want to live by your own words & have the courtesy to treat someone with proper etiquette & tact? How could you?

You will remain nameless, because I don’t want you to be harassed while you are down. If you ever read this, let this be known. You’ve hurt me. You’ve hurt me so scurrilously. I can’t bring myself to insult you for it.