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Okay so this is my first time writing about myself that is almost like venting or sum, but...i just wna know or get an answer at least.
i really never know how can i ever feel romantic around people i mean i may admire them i may like them but i never WANT to be in the relationship or sum.
but i had accepted some people before ONLINE.
I thought it won't be a good idea so i break up with them each of em.
don't b surprised but i used to have 2 gf before (i didn't date em AT THE SAME TIME! THE OTHER ONE WAS BACK AROUND 2021 AND THE OTHER ONE WAS JUST AROUND 2023!!)
then i used to have an ex-bf which really show me what love is but it didn't affect that much...
i just don't know why i'm like this but i never want to be with anyone, well yes mayb i want too, but there is this strong feeling where i was like not good enough to be with them which drains me and ruin it all.
in fact, i always just want to stay friends with them or mayb i just may continue admiring them but i'll never see them as my LOVER in the future.
i always keep asking myself whether "am i straight? am i bisexual? am i gay or what?" none of them above were the perfect answer for me.
my thoughts think sexuality doesn't matter for myself, the only thing that matter for me is whether i am interested or not so that i won't hurt their feelings someday.
_END OF THIS STUPID PARAGRAPH._
pls give me an answer :,c
( I NEVER WANT TO VENT IN PUBLIC!!)
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deploygirlfriend
Definitely sounds like being ace is a possibility. However, there could be other factors that impact your romantic availability. Anyone can be and feel romantic in the social norm way, it just takes a bit of opening yourself up...
Some things I find may cause a lack of interest in a partner are:
- Boredom (this is a huge one, especially if you're sheltered or your parents don't let you go out all the time or if it's an online relationship.)
- Insecurity (they say you can't love someone if you don't love yourself. If you're insecure about yourself, you might feel like your partner wouldn't want you.)
- Busy life (focusing on school and work is great and mature, but for some people, this crushes all of their time they'd have for a relationship.)
- Commitment (and some people just can't commit.)
My longest relationship was about a year long, and that was just online. I've been unfortunate enough to date online for so long, but I'll try and give you tips nothing less...
Make sure you communicate. Not just telling each other "good morning" and "good night," but if you start feeling romantically bored or uninterested, ask your partner if they have any ideas on what to do for an activity. Even a couple hour voice chat can help bring the mood back in.
Definitely a weird one and it's not everyone's thing, but if you and your partner are comfortable with it, feel free to talk about your sexuality and— you know, your peculiar interests. I'm sure you get the gist, but mutual talk about that stuff can help keep a relationship lively.
Don't worry about constantly talking with your partner, you both need your own time, especially if you have school. If you constantly talk to them, it can drain you quicker.
That's about all I can give, I don't know how much of it is helpful.
Thank u for this!! and also i think i'm insecure and also somewhat busy mayb? i'm not as always but back then all i do with my partner is to say good morning and goodnights, i hav no topics to talk about bcos on how weird my thoughts or topics are which i thought they wouldn't b interested of since we have different interests, so we ended up breaking up, but my ex bf is well we have some things in comon but i feel insecured bout myself and so that i told him i'm not ready yet and i have to focus on school stuff cos i'm eventually a nerd(XD)
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Zeddekiah
You could just be on the ace spectrum ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
wat's that TOT (I love ur ash pfp)
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