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Hi, I'm Zombabi, I'm 16 and basically an involuntary
recluse. I only really started socializing at the "end" of the pandemic
due to strict parents and general social anxieties. Currently, I have 6
friends, I started with 0 in 2021. Thanks for reading.
Ramblingz.
A late night post how naughty mauhahaha- ANYWAYS! I went to the concert I mentioned yesterday, not to brag hahahahaha. It was very fun, I usually avoid this but I did the talking with strangers thing! like yk when you see people talking and you're interested so you actually JOIN IN instead of just standing there?? YEAH I DID THAT!!! I didn't get anyones contacts or anything but I didn't really want to? I was more so just practicing, and it was super fun to talk about metalocalypse and cosplay and blahblahblah. ALSO I hung out with a friend and it wasn't insanely awkward??? I just relaxed and talked about what was on my mind, I think I might've found the good middle ground between being mindful about others needs, desires and interests while also not being SCARED OUT OF YOUR MIND whenever you talk to someone!!! YAY ME!!! (I've also been practicing self-love) Strategies.
okay so reddit and youtube taught me WELL OKAY- it sounds bad but if you know where to look you can find some pretty good advice! FIRST STRATEGY, I desperately need to talk about my interests more! I've started doing it more often but still. FOR EXAMPLE, I brought up horror movies and horror video games even though I knew the majority of the people I was talking to were NOT horror fans like I didn't ramble on about it but I just briefly mentioned it, and later on, in that same day someone drew slenderman and kinda looked my way while saying "I doubt anyone can guess who this is...". They seemed so happy when I got it! :D SO TALK ABOUT YOUR INTERESTS PLEASEUHHH- Idk why that wasn't obvious to me??? SECOND STRATEGY, hehehe touch people. okay, this one is controversial because touching people is a dangerous game, but I'm not referring to full on grabbing people, also as someone w/ some autistic friends people who DON'T want you to touch them at all are pretty easy to spot? so yeah! brush that knee/arm against someone, touch someones shoulder when they tell a good joke, give your friends HUGS JUST DO IT NOW!!!! THIRD STRATEGY, I'm pretty sure I've mentioned this before? but GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD!!! I am the most self-obsessed self hating individual its an AWFUL mix!!! and it takes work to get out of that headspace but its possible, just stay in the moment and STOP ASSUMING WHAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU. TW BODY IMAGE TALK: I usually assume my friends and honestly everyone I know thinks I'm a little gross looking because I'm pretty fat, I mean that's what TV and tumblr tells me so it must be true right? but recently I've gotten TWO body-specific compliments from skinny girls, which like WHAT???? Ik my mindset is terrible but if anyone else struggles w that I just wanted to share. Your assumptions about other's thoughts are YOUR ASSUMPTIONS. just think that one over...
Goals.
Hanging out with friends more, TALKING TO STRANGERS, touching people and just in general practicing all those strategies.
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