⨾　queerness . . .

I've been thinking about being queer isn't just about how you identify sexually or romantically , it's about presentation , gender , finding labels that make you proud to be you and make you feel comfortable in your skin and many seem to forget that ; there's many reasons people hoard labels or don't use many labels at all .

for example , i am a intersex transfem les but for the longest time i identified as primarily transmasc / non - binary & unlabeled while i was okay with my attraction being flux , the idea of my gender fluctuating felt like i was stuck in tv static , lost even . then i learnt its okay to find labels that suit my experiences i slowly learn to grew i haven't got to fit into a "lgbtq norm" since its already viewed as unnormal and that helped me realize that my "boyhood" wasn't boyhood it was masculine femineity and the androgyny i felt from being intersex my whole life . i am now , much more happier with my identity now that I'm labeling myself as a transgirl and even a lesbian .

basically what I'm trying to say is there's no harm in changing things , experimenting , trying new labels , names or even pronouns shouldn't be seen as "too confusing" from an outside perspective queerness is a construct for YOU and if people don't like / adapt to that , that's their own problem .

being queer is a wonderful and unique thing and you shouldn't be scared to express it in anyway ! <3