i think the reason so many non-mogai queer people are hate on and degrade mogai / liom communities is because they're afraid tbh .
i think about this a lot . because like why else would they hate on them so soundly ?
when i was younger , i used to hoard xenogenders and neopronouns for fun . i used to identify as transmaculine, and after leaving the transmed community, i realized how much more free and relaxed and comfortable i felt in mogai communities . i could be myself in the hyperspecific way that i percieve myself , by hoarding all of these wonderful labels and sorting through them like trading cards .
i'm older now, and i still use and identify with xenogenders and neopronouns . not as many in number as i used to , and not of the same kind as when i was younger , but i still enjoy them . because they give me the freedom to express my identity in strange and unique ways that cishet people wouldn't even dare to think of .
and i find that so interesting .
i am an intersex transfem BIPOC aro lesbian DID system . being intersex , being a DID system , being BIPOC . all of those affect my views of gender , attraction , and identity . so of course when i find labels that put some of the nuances of my identity into words , i will enjoy them !
what i notice a lot is that the mogai community is infantilized a lot . they're viewed as kids who are just stupid and don't know what they're doing , who are being cringe , who will grow up eventually and realize this is all dumb and pointless .
not only is this an overgeneralization , but it lacks nuance !
why is growing up and changing and realizing the labels you used 6 years ago don't fit the person you are today viewed as such a terrible thing ?
people grow and change all the time . labels are like shirts ! you grow into them , you grow out of them , you get a new one . or maybe you find one that fits you your whole life , and that's fine too ! change is allowed , change is ok .
being queer and weird is ok .
being queer is inherently about breaking out of the boxes that allocishet people have made for us . why do we keep trying to make new ones for ourselves and expecting everyone to fit in them ?
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I THINK ABOUT THIS SO OFTEN!!! i think theyre afraid of the queer community being precived a certain way, even though the community has always been precieved that way! like, people have always thought we were weird and too much and wrong for as long as queer people have existed. and it really sucks that so many people in spaces for queer people will intentionally push certain queer people out.
anyway, ive felt this way since i was younger too!! i can remember as a kid always thinking "i wish i was just a being, something not precieved", and in 2021/2022 i really embraced that aspect of myself and have been able to find xenos that fit me best and that i hold really close to me!! and i think that even if i change my mind in the future and decide to just be NB or whatever, id never want to forget abt the expirience i have had with my gender. i could also talk about how this ll relate to my Audhd but id go on forever lolz, great post!!!! :333
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