Girl what even is 'romance' anymore.

For those of you who don't know me, hey I'm Val and I have god awful luck with relationships. Like- uncanny bad luck. 

Most of the time, it's not my fault. Not saying that I'm absolutely perfect or anything of the sort, I know I'm not. But it's insane how everything will be going well for like.. a month and then suddenly people flake out for seemingly no reason.

I believe romance has been effectively ruined by 'modern dating' and its aspects such as hookup culture, the p#rn industry, the 'talking stage', 'situationships', online dating, the skipping of the tween stage, lack of 3rd places, and the seeming lack/fear of commitment. Now before you get out your torches and pitchforks, please hear me out;

I know it's unlikely/impossible to have a full-on committed relationship between the ages of 13-17. In your teen years, you're figuring out who you are and what kind of adult you're going to become. That is normal and perfectly fine/normal. However, I feel that if you're an adult (18+), dating should be considered a bit more serious if you're going to do it. An example of what I mean can be seen in a video I was watching the other day, someone had told the video creator that they had been "just talking" for 5 years. 5 years... I can't even imagine being with someone for 5 years, only to be "just talking". 

Is this unreasonable? I personally don't think so, but maybe I'm just crazy. 

Whatever happened to the actual building of relationships between people? In today's world, the words "I love you" mean virtually nothing. Hear me out again, please. 

People will say that within a week or 2 of meeting someone. Just meeting them. Not dating or anything like that. As in "hey i just met this person a week ago and i'm in love with them". Am I the only one who thinks that's weird? It's happened to me so so many times that when someone says it to me, I don't really feel anything. I can't ever take people seriously when they say that to me. The phrase has lost all meaning. 

To me, all dating and romance has been dead and it's been like this for a while. To clarify though, I am a serial dater and I have BPD that very well could be part of the problem. But for fuck's sake, I had a guy that I knew for 2 WEEKS fake his death because he was talking to another girl and didn't have the balls to break up with me. Like? Dude?? I've known you for a whopping 14 days, if you don't wanna see me anymore, that's fine lolll.

At this point, I don't believe that this a personal issue that I'm facing alone though. I've seen so so many people talking about similar experiences. 

Please comment your opinions because I would love to hear what you guys think!!