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I hate the way transsexuality is so overly displayed in the media. By that I don't mean that trans people shouldn't have representation, that's literally just insane, I just think that the way some "accepting" people (not actually accepting, they just wanna seem cool social warriors to get with what is supposed to be politically correct) kind of talk too much about trans people to get brownie points. Yeah, I get it, trans people deserve to have their own space, but I believe that the way everyone talks about it, especially cis people, makes it really confusing for teens, such as myself.ย
For about 3 years I kind of just began going through this entire self-discovery journey. Now, what's the problem with this? I entered trans communities, trying to get a feel of who I am as a person. I was born a female, but started questioning who I was, whether I was a boy, girl or something else entirely. If it wasn't hard enough trying to figure out if I was a boy or a girl, getting 2000 genders shoved down my throat isn't fucking helping... Like, what the fuck is catgender and how do I know if I'm it or not??? Teenagers in general don't know who or what they are, so why complicate everything even more? All of this confusion can spiral down into things like depression, anxiety and others.ย
Most of the people in society who claim to be trans actually aren't. Why do I think this? It's simple, gender dysphoria, the main cause of transsexuality or transgenderism, is extremely rare. While yes, some "studies" claim that around 1% of people are trans, how exactly do they research this? By asking people "haha, anyway, are you cis or nah?". The problem with this is that the person could be lying, be confused or something else entirely. Since there's so many talks about trans people nowadays, especially in western media, people are more likely to question their gender identity and the researchers have NO way of proving if when you answer their questions, you're actually right or not. Hell, even psychologists have a hard time diagnosing you with disorders, including gender dysphoria.
The reason behind this is that psychology is what I like to call a "soft" science. What does this mean? It means that there's never a definitive answer for psychology research. For example, with math you can ALWAYS know that 2+2 equals 4, but when it comes to a person's mind, it's much more complex. If someone is misbehaving, is it always because of, let's say, child abuse? No, that's not the case 100% of the time. If it makes things really difficult for psychologists, trained professionals to diagnose people, then how is it NOT gonna be hard for the average teen to understand themselves? Not all of us have the maturity to process things like this without having an existential crisis (yes, I'm talking from personal experience). An example of this situation was when I went through my first psychiatric appointment. I was like 70% sure I had ADHD and when I talked to my mental health professional and got tested, I left the room with an Autism diagnosis.
I don't blame teenagers for being confused and adopting 20 billion microlabels and asking everyone to call them ze/zem, I blame adults for letting us get to this confusing and occasionally toxic community. It's already hard for us, yet no one is doing anything to help. There's actually a really high amount of de-transitioners, because nobody told them the truth. Nobody reached out to them and told them "please, think things through before you go through this process". Transitioning is *hard*, especially if you're not sure about whether you're trans or not.ย
On one side, we have people telling us that trans people are sick degenerates and on the other, we have people making transsexuality seem like something "cool" or that it's a choice (yes, I've been told that transsexuality is an option, literally made me sick to my stomach). Trans people suffer enough as it is, so both sides either make them look like they're scum or just pretend like their experiences are extremely easy to deal with.
I'd like to end this by saying that the media isn't helping any of us, cis or trans. If you're questioning or are trans, that's okay, who am I to tell you what you are? I just think that I'd be doing you a disservice by not telling you everything, the way everyone else does. You deserve better and deserve to have things explained to you throurougly, even if the truth is hard to deal with.
I'd like it if you guys could share your thoughts on this too.
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Great reflection, many end up considering that they are transsexuals because they are confused or because they have entered into the whole guru surrounded by how it improves being of "X" sex. One does not choose one's identity or sexual orientation, it is something predestined by the central subdivision of the bed nucleus of the stria terminalis (BNST) and the third interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus (INAH3).
Sexual identity is something purely biological, and considering it something social causes more harm than good. Same as the word "Gender", I feel that in today's time people who speak native English confuse "gender" with "sex" a lot. English does not have gender, but Spanish does: it has two. And German has three genders. Genders are only for common nouns.
Also that the "genres" people always talk about are painfully stereotypical. Having masculine or feminine qualities does not make you more or less of a woman, everyone is perfect just the way they are.
I've been researching the neurological causes behind transsexuality and honestly it's been really interesting to read through all the scientific causes. It's unfortunate that tucutes refuse to inform themselves on the matter.
by Nicole; ; Report
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I agree that transgenderism is currently undermining the efforts of the homosexuals who have been proven to have a biological sexual orientation while transexuals deviate from that and are constantly shoving themselves in between the community giving birth to things that go far beyond useless i.e. asexuality
I've seen genuine research papers which show that a transsexual person's brain can be different from a cissexual's down to a biological level. Trans males, females or hell, even asex (no sex) or duosex (both sexes) can be possible, neurologically speaking, but something like being bunnygender isn't logical nor does it have any believable research backing it up.
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Pls don't refer to trans ppl as a collective as 'transexuals' and 'transgenderism,' some ppl like those labels but many such as myself don't.
Xenogenders like catgender are just labels that describe one's gender in a whimsical and silly way. Like someone identifying as, for a silly example, Garfieldgender just means that in some abstract way they are connected with garfield. It's just a silly way of expressing gender. It's also common used by neurodivergent ppl as most have a wishy-washy perception of gender or that arciac notions of gender don't fit them, which is why many a neurodivergent people are trans, and could possibly be why you are struggling with your identity.
Using gender dysphoria as a 'be all, end all' of the deciding if someone is trans is a transmedicalist take and quite bioessentialist. Many trans ppl do suffer from gender dysphoria such as myself but many don't. And asking people if they are trans or not is the only way of knowing, no matter what you do you can never truely know what someone is feeling on the inside, so we just have to go off their words.
Yes, it is true many ppl detransition; however, most are trans who've been pressured into detransitioning by family and peers alike. And bring it up in this discussion could also leave the impression that just because the minority within the minority happen to detransition doesn't mean we should rule it out or restrict it further. There is a higher percentage of people regretting knee surgery than regretting gender conformation and we don't see people calling for restrictions of knee surgeries.
I understand why you have your positions on things, and i hope you figure out your gender in the near future and hopefully will be more understanding anyways if you come to realise you are not trans yourself.
If I don't refer to the concept of being transgender or transsexual as transgenderism or transsexuality, then how do you propose I refer to it?
For your second point, let's just say that you are inherently connected to Garfield, how and why is this involved with your gender? I like many things, like manga, psychological horror, videogames, etc... and yet I'm not "mangagender" despite my tastes being a big part of who I am. It kind of messes with the definition of the word "gender" and if words don't have concrete definitions, there's no point in the word itself.
I agree that you can't tell if someone is trans or not unless they specifically tell you and that's the problem. How can we know someone is trans in a scientific way? The closest method is with the gender dysphoria diagnosis. No cis person actually suffers from gender dysphoria, though cis de-transitioners are an exception. The process of *proving* that someone has gender dysphoria is what is difficult though. A psychologist could misdiagnose you with gender dysphoria and, after you've fully transitioned, you start suffering because of the effects of HRT, surgery, etc.
I don't believe that gender affirming procedures should be restricted more, but that the consecuences *should* be talked about more. I've seen plenty of people regretting going on T because they ended up getting hair loss, having a deeper voice and other male traits. Even if de-transitioners like this are uncommon, (according to you and I'm assuming some research, I should probably look up more de-trans cases) we should support de-transitioners by making situations like this even less common for them, since people like them often suffer from severe depression, sucidial ideation and others.
Thank you for replying respectfully. I've been wanting to discuss this for a while but had no one to chat about this with irl <3
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Just use 'trans ppl' or 'transness' instead, also transsexuality only refers to ppl who have had surgeries and transgenderism is a word mainly used by conservatives and anti-trans ppl.
I'm assuming that garfield has the same effect that someone who feels something adds to their gender; example: how some women feel abt pink, dresses, and feminity. I'm not entirely knowledgable abt xenogender and most of my knowledge relies on people who use xenogenders, but I'm not fully read on the topic in its entirety.
And many people have said that they've been thoroughly told the effects of surgeries, even the rare ones or possiblity of death. If one isn't notified of the effects and possible byproducts then it's most likely the healthcare provider is malpracticing. Ofc gender dysphoria is the only scientific way of telling if someone is trans or not, it excludes many people and that's obviously bad. And caterring to cis ppl who happen to transition thinking they're trans is not trans ppl's problem, it's the medical persons who've helped get this person the transition. And yes, there should be spaces, but it's not trans ppl's problem.
Ofc it can cause depression but that's bc they're literally experiencing gender dysphoria, dysphoria from being in a body that doesn't aline with their mind.
It's fine, most trans ppl just don't engage bc most discourse is like:
*hops out of bush* "So why do you think you should exist, tranny"
Or at least that's how ppl feel it is. I try to educate when I can or when i'm feeling it so ppl don't drift towards the alt-right pipeline. Just stay nice, and ask questions that aren't inherently calling into question trans ppls existences or phrasing it in such a way that's on the anti-trans side or the agruement
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The thing is, it kind of is trans people's problem. This is because a lot of de-transitioners end up growing resentment towards the communities that didn't fully inform them of the situation and may eventually end up becoming transphobic. This isn't trans people's fault, but obviously trans people speaking on the effects of HRT could prevent that. There should be separate support groups for both trans and de-trans individuals.
In any case, I'm glad that nowadays transphobia is less common and that trans folk have more medical assistance when it comes to transitioning.
by Nicole; ; Report
Well, yes trans people should educate ppl who want to transition on the side effects, it should be put on the doctors and such to educate them in depth abt on what can happen. Sure trans ppl could educate them on side effects but ultimately it's up to the doctors and such to inform them.
And I honestly hope transphobia lessens greatly in the coming years as I'm from Ireland and it's currently seeing a push of far-right within the country. They're currently, mainly insighting violence against immagrants but as they move farther right they're going to target trans ppl more. Hopefully transphobia lessens globally as well so that I can finally leave Ireland without fear for my life in a country i'm emmigranting to
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