What is emotional dependence and how to avoid it (English)

Before I begin, I would like to say that I am not a psychologist nor a professional in this subject, I have suffered from emotional dependency many times and I am here to tell you what I did to get away from it.

What is emotional dependency?

Emotional dependency is when you have the extreme need to receive attention or love from a certain person and feel that if that person leaves your life the world will fall apart. People with emotional dependency are usually people with very low self-esteem and feel that they are no one without the person they depend on, they usually settle for the least importance as they feel they do not deserve to be loved.

You can identify a dependent relationship when absolutely everything indicates that you should end it but you do not, for example, you may know that this is not the right person for you, that it hurts you, that you are not happy, etc.. and you will continue in that relationship for fear of ending it.

There are far worse situations, when an emotionally dependent person and a manipulative person come together., the manipulative person will notice that this person has emotional dependence and will take advantage of that, will do bad things because he will know that this person will forgive him absolutely everything for fear that he will leave him, this person will put worse emotional dependence, low self-esteem and possibly depression, he will make you believe that you are nothing without that person.

How to leave emotional dependence?

Improve your self-esteem, if you do not love yourself you can not let another person love you, for example, you love you 18% and a person comes to you and offers you 25%, you will think that how is it possible that a person loves you so much, 25% is not even half of what you deserve because you do not love yourself even half of what you should, if you love you 100% you will not pay attention to any stupid person that walks around, if a person would want to conquer you literally would have to do anything for that because if he does not do it then it means that it is the least you deserve, you deserve a thousand times more than that and that is the idea, you should receive everything he wants you, so it is better to work on yourself.

Don't get into a relationship if you are not ready because that can cause you to depend on the relationship, work on yourself and love yourself, value yourself, heal and learn to put yourself as a priority before getting into a relationship, it is not wrong not to be in something, you should give yourself some time for yourself and know yourself completely, focus on you and invest time only in you, learn to recognize that you deserve something good, the more time you invest in you is better because it is a learning time that is completely worth it, remember that there is nothing wrong to give you a priority time because you have your whole life to give to others and give to you.