yearning?

ok so MAYBE I got back with this girl who I think I love I'm not so sure. I like girls for the comfort and their personalities but I like men for their looks and their joysticks. and apparently girls love it when men yearn for them and I just can't see myself doing that for this girl, I love her and everything but its weird and I don't really know how to feel about it. I should yearn for her so she feels loved... :P