public spaces, the internet, and menaces

i've come to the realization recently that to abide by anarchist ideals means utilizing those ideals with respect to those around me as well, and this means not subjecting others to try to conform to my comfort. by which i mean: if i enter a space where people are doing things that make me uncomfortable, it's up to be to establish my own boundaries and leave if i need to, as opposed to voicing my displeasure upon the others present in hopes that they'll change their behavior.

this is a tricky thing when people are doing actually reprehensible things (i don't mean crimes so much as putting others in danger or violating this sort of anarchist idea of interpersonal navigation). there are a ton of variables that play into your decision making with how you want to proceed, such as how attached you are to the space you're in and the people in it, how much the space is private vs. public, how much you want to defend the space you're in, etc. the answer becomes a lot more clear cut when you can identify how much of a private vs. public space you're in. if someone is being an ass in your own private space (your local community, your house, a private discord), you can establish boundaries by either talking with them to get them to stop or, if they refuse to stop, kicking them out. but what about a public space?

i abide by the notion that everyone deserves compassion and a chance at redemption. you can never force a person to change; that ability has to come from the other person to even want to change in the first place. compassion for others can involve removing someone who's a danger from the vicinity, even in a public space. it's difficult to help everyone, but those people who put others in danger deserve help, too. class status, marginalization, trauma, social upbringing, and many other factors can influence a person to the point where they harm others, and while they're responsible for their own actions, there are so many factors out of their control.

so, where's the internet in all of this? certainly there are a few parts that are private spaces, such as the aforementioned private discord servers, but the bulk of it is more or less a public space. nothing you post is in a vacuum. and so, the question is, how much do you try to oust people who you consider to be a public menace if the sphere you exist within isn't as private as you may think it is? how much do you try to stick your neck out for others within the context of a website that nearly anyone on earth can access?