Happy New Year!

Happy New Year Everyone!

I hope everyone rings in the New Year with a bang! We are 4 years into the rawring 20's now.  I have a list of things I feel we can do differently going into the New Year that would lead to us being happier and having a more positive impact on our lives, our self-esteem, and other aspects of our lives.  

1) Cut ties with anyone toxic - Pay close attention to how people make you feel inside.  No one really forgets that type of thing.  If they are making you feel a knot in your stomach and you don't know why or if they make you get down on yourself, if they make you feel dread in some type of way.  THAT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, that is completely on them so remove those people from your life.  Forgive them because why do you wanna hold that grudge and anger in your heart?  I mean seriously.   I don't choose to be mad anymore rather I choose to just be indifferent and done with it.  You will always feel what you feel about the person and forgiveness does not mean you have to talk to them or even deal with them.  Forgiveness means you refuse to give them power over you and any aspect to do with you.  

2) Learn your boundaries -  No one has to agree with you and that is fine.  Everyone is human and we all are entitled to an opinion.  If you see how someone treats you or others or how someone speaks to you or others as bad, toxic, disrespectful, and degrading, cut them off. They are handing you the scissors.  Enforce your boundaries.  Your people will respect them because they respect you or you will at least see them trying to do so.  If you have to tell them more than 2 or 3 times, then it isn't because they don't understand what you are trying to say, they just don't care and they are exercising how careless they are about you and how you feel directly to your face.  

3) Learn your Self Validation - No one will respect you if you do not respect yourself.  You don't have to see it that way, but it is true.  I had to learn this one very difficultly.  No one else's validation matters.  What they think of you is not your business or your problem... it is theirs.  They don't know you like you know you.  What do you have if you personally cannot validate yourself?  If someone cannot accept you for you, then what does that say about them?  It says absolutely nothing about you, but it says everything about them.  If they cannot tell you what is wrong or why then there isn't anything wrong only with their way of thinking.  You have to be prepared for anyone to walk out on you and you have to tell yourself no matter how much that  person meant to you that it's ok.  I'm not saying you won't cry or feel bad, that means you only have a heart, but why have people around you that can't love you, support you, validate you, accept you, all in the way you rightfully deserve?   

Otherwise have a safe new years even. If you are  of age and drinking and live in Colorado, Uber rides are free tonight.  Otherwise be safe, make good decisions, and have fun.  Have a good night. I'm off to jam out.