Demonized by mutual

So we all known it is kind of common that not all LGTBQ+ people find their labels early, some do take times figuring it out right? well, i think of my mutuals is demonizing me and kind of implying that i'm "a bi person who joked about being a lesbian" which is so inappropriate to assume? i feel super harrassed i dunno what to do really,  i don't have a label, i just go by queer, i'll figure it out in the future but who knows, i just, hate being treated like this, not that i wanna victimize myself i just don't understand, its like i can't change a label just to figure myself out or else im a bad guy